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If my four year old asks for help an adult would consider him mature to know his limits, but somehow when we become adults asking for help is childish? And even though he's starting to feel the deepest love connection of his life, he won't know why. To do that, you must be willing to be soft and gentle with him.

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I think one of the things that makes life in this day and age hard for Katie is that what she does is under appreciated in modern society. Other launches were cancelled or deemed unnecessary. Do you wish that you had more solo and attention from your man. Yet I have stood on the banks of Krebs Lake And seen our house overlooking the waters. This has resulted in almost no blogs posts… This post is sort of one of those posts. So what if his apartment is a del to sports. The point is that all little boys, regardless of personality or interests, are born with the innate desire to be heroes.

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Well, I think we toss the word love around too much, but for lack of other words available I guess we don't have a choice. The musical performances are faithful to the Tina Turner imprint, with lots of sexy clothing and exuberantly sensual dancing. It's romantic , yes, but romance is deception.

What's Love Got to Do with It? - Islam Love encompasses the Islamic view of life as universal brotherhood that applies to all who hold faith. The complex and abstract nature of love often reduces discourse of love to a.

Source: Shutterstock is a force of. However much we may want to, we can not command, demand, or take away love, any more than we can command the moon and the stars and the wind and the rain to come and go according to our whims. We may have some limited ability to change the weather, but we do so at the risk of upsetting an ecological balance we don't fully understand. Similarly, we can stage a seduction or mount a courtship, but the result is more likely to be infatuation, or two illusions dancing together, than love. Love is bigger than you are. You can invite love, but you cannot dictate how, when, and where love expresses itself. You can choose to surrender to love or not, but in the end, love strikes like lightning: unpredictable and irrefutable. You can even find yourself loving people you don't like at all. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, addenda, or codes. Like the sun, love radiates independently of our fears and desires. Love is inherently free. It cannot be bought, sold, or traded. You cannot make someone love you, nor can you prevent it — not for any amount of money. Love cannot be imprisoned, nor can it be legislated. Love is not a substance, not a commodity, not even a marketable power source. Love has no territory, no borders, no quantifiable mass or energy output. One can buy partners and even partners. Marriage is a matter for the law, for rules and courts and property rights. In the past, the marriage price, or dowry, and in the present, alimony and the pre-nuptial agreement, make it clear that marriage is all about contracts. But as we all know, marriages, whether arranged or not, may have little to do with love. Sexual stimulation and gratification, whether by way of fingers, mouths, objects, fantasy play, whips and chains, or just plain intercourse, can certainly be bought and sold, not to mention used to sell other things. Whether sex should be for sale is another question entirely, but love itself cannot be sold. One can buy loyalty, companionship, attention, and perhaps even compassion, but love itself cannot be bought. An can be bought, but love cannot. It comes, or not, by grace, of its own will and in its own timing, subject to no human's planning. Love cannot be turned on as a reward. It cannot be turned off as a. Only something else pretending to be love can be used as a lure, as a hook, for bait and switch, imitated, insinuated, but the real deal can never be delivered if it doesn't spring freely from the heart. This doesn't mean that love allows destructive and abusive behaviors to go unchecked. Love speaks out for justice and protests when harm is being done. Love points out the consequences of hurting oneself or others. Love allows room for , , or pain to be expressed and released. But love does not threaten to withhold itself if it doesn't get what it wants. Love is inherently compassionate and empathic. This is the true nature of love, and love itself can not be manipulated or restrained. Love honors the sovereignty of each soul. Love is its own law. Excerpted from The Seven Natural Laws of Love , by Deborah Anapol and appears by permission of the publisher. This material is protected by copyright. Please contact the author for permission to copy, distribute or reprint. I am here to talk about a man named Alexzander. This man helped me a lot and helped me achieve happiness. Recently My wife broke my heart and Dr alexzander helped me with a spell that changed everything and gave me another chance. I highly recommend this man since he is sincere and honest and will not take your money away since he does not ask for any. He will guide you and help you achieve happiness. He has all kinds of spell. Here is his email alexzanderhightemple gmail. Heck, on my wedding day I didn't know for sure if I loved the man I was about to marry. He confided in me later that, on his mind that day was, should I be doing this again? I'm his second -and last- wife. It's true of all wedding days, whether the couple knows it or not. I'll tell you why. And, it needs time to grow, that just makes sense. Maybe love can grow in other ways, like, how many fights can you have and still stay together to enjoy the good times when they come? Love grows through actions, reciprocation, memories, pain, sorrow, empathy, compassion. You will know if the love is authentic if you find yourself performing actions for him out of love, out of caring for him, out of because you want to please him. Those are actions of love. You'll know when what you did for him, shine his shoes, he reciprocated, iron your dress. You'll know when he does something for you that will please you, and you want to return the favor. You will know when you have fond memories to look back on, to laugh over. This is where time gets involved. The more time, the more memories. Good or bad doesn't matter, that just comes with the territory. You'll know its love when he hurts your feelings, but you don't blow up about it, knowing much of it, the words, is his anger and need to vent. This is called being the whipping post. You are his, and he is yours. You will both use it. It's not a bad thing when its a two way street; it is bad if its only one way--that is abuse. I love my husband more the longer we are together. I have learned what love is over the years, by experiencing it. The experience happens when you are solid in your commitment to one another. On my wedding day I wasn't sure if I love him; but I was sure of something else: I was committing myself to him. I took the wedding vows seriously and literally. So, if I never loved him in the future, I would still stay with him. You do realize that you can't experience the depths of love until you got commitment down. Because love gets sweeter as it gets older. Love is effortless and is hard and sturdy and simply cannot be forced, what you are attempting is forced love which is something exceptionally hard to do. Unlike life love is not meant to be a constant struggle, sure you may have the arguments and may disagree at times and others might try to make your relationship difficult for you because they're jealous, as long as there is love, there will be hate that is undeniable. But in the end no matter what struggles you may face the fact that you love the person should be unquestionable otherwise don't marry them, if you were questioning whether it was a good idea to marry that guy then it was obviously a bad idea and you may have missed out on finding true love, which if that is the case I am extremely sorry for you. If you don't make the person you love your main priority above even your own friends and family then you don't love them, true love is undoubtable, unquestionable, unnegotiable, effortless and dangerous. If something were to make your beloved happy then you would do it without question, even if it betrayed everything you ever believed in. Now, how do you know if you are blessed with those characteristics? I believe the article in Psychology Today is self-explainable. You can, however, test yourself to determine if you posses the characteristics of true love. Read 1st Corinthians chapter 13, verses 4 through 8 in the Christian Bible. Then read those same verses again and put your name in place of the word 'love', ONLY if the characteristic genuinely applies to you. A score of 100 is needed. PS: don't worry if it takes some time to score 100. The trip is worth the effort. It is just hormones combined with unmet psychological needs. I think its bad when people try to make it out as something mystical, that just leaves people who are already unloved feeling worse. The people who get all gooey about love are those who have been fortunate enough to find it at least sometime in their lives. Attractive Women, especially like romance, because they automatically attract it without any effort. For those of us that will live and die unloved -- we don't want to hear about your fairy tail. I don't agree word for word with what the article says, but I think the love this article is referring to is not necessarily romantic love. True love can only be found when we realize that we don't need anyone to love us to feel worthy and to justify our existence. It's not easy to achieve, but it begins with taking the time to accept our true selves. If I may offer some unsolicited advice: I hope you take the time to really get to know yourself. Pay attention to what makes you feel at peace and do more of it. What you are experiencing there is a manifestation of love. Also, notice what makes you feel anxious or bad about yourself and avoid it as much as you can. There's no need to understand why these things make you feel the way they do, just accept that it's ok to feel that way, regardless of what anyone else thinks about what you should and should not be doing. Also, be careful of how you see others. As soon as you catch yourself judging someone else, put the thought from your mind. I find that often our criticism of other people is really a reflection of how we see ourselves, and the more we judge others the harder it is to see our own worth. Listen to your intuition. There's only one you and only you know what is good for you. I hope you find the love you are looking for. I don't agree word for word with what the article says, but I think the love this article is referring to is not necessarily romantic love. True love can only be found when we realize that we don't need anyone to love us to feel worthy and to justify our existence. It's not easy to achieve, but it begins with taking the time to accept our true selves. If I may offer some unsolicited advice: I hope you take the time to really get to know yourself. Pay attention to what makes you feel at peace and do more of it. What you are experiencing there is a manifestation of love. Also, notice what makes you feel anxious or bad about yourself and avoid it as much as you can. There's no need to understand why these things make you feel the way they do, just accept that it's ok to feel that way, regardless of what anyone else thinks about what you should and should not be doing. Also, be careful of how you see others. As soon as you catch yourself judging someone else, put the thought from your mind. I find that often our criticism of other people is really a reflection of how we see ourselves, and the more we judge others the harder it is to see our own worth. Listen to your intuition. There's only one you and only you know what is good for you. I hope you find the love you are looking for. Many of us were never loved as children and as adults love still stays out of reach. As adults we fall in love with people who cannot love us, just as our caretakers could not love us. It is very sad but, it is also a fact of life. Not everyone gets to be lucky enough to have love in their lives. I wish society would understand and acknowledges this more instead of denying it. Just know that you are not alone, there are other people living with this problem. Ive spent my whole life looking for love and never finding it... I also have spent my whole life reading about self growth and I certainly am not needy in any sense of the word. Love found me and the man I love! Its not a farce, it most certainly is a force and when it comes to you , you will not be able to get over its force! It has components like cruelty, loneliness,injustice n much else. It takes aeons of time even to understand. Look at your motive. Its not like achieving worldly goals. Love in its truest sense requires aeons of time to experience. Our relationships reflect our conscious and subconscious mind. Do we consider earthquakes, volcanos, hurricanes supernatural? Nevertheless we cannot control them. Nature is not always so dramatic. We don't think of these as traps unless they are creating experiences we don't want to have either by their presence or absence... There is nothing to indicate that what we call love is anything more than a product of evolution that proved beneficial to reproduction and child rearing. When you push this flowery myth that love is something wonderful and special, you hurt those that have been deprived. When people believe that love is some amazing cosmic thing, they are left to ask, why not me? How do you explain love to the unloved without making them feel like crap? But you can't make love seem like a horrible thing to be avoided. Unless you have never ever in your whole god damn life haven't felt like crap because of the truth, you have no right to say this. And if you haven't felt like crap yet, then a lot of people have been lying to you. Shut up unless you have a way to tell them the truth without making them feel like crap. I have felt this way since I was 12 years old. I realized at that age my parents did not truly love me. It made me incredibly sad and set me up for a lifetime of disappointment. Then you see these movies, and songs, and blogs like this, that talk about how special love is. That it is natural. I struggle because I love deeper and stronger than I could ever put into words. I have two children and the love I have for them can never be verbally expressed. I loved and still love their father, but after six years of holding on to the hope that one day he would love me, I have finally come to grips that he doesn't and is not capable of it. It has just reaffirmed my belief that love in a romantic sense does not exist. I think the only reason I love as deep as I do is because of what my parents did to me as a child. I cry myself to sleep almost every night because I'm surrounded by a world that advertises this concept of love and I'm longing for someone or something to make me feel safe, and secure and to love me back. It's hard to explain, much like the definition of love. But I do understand what you are saying. I feel the same way. For many it is hard for them to understand what it is like to know you were unloved in the most lovable stage of your life, as a child. It is damaging, to say the least. Now that I think of it, I guess love is a force of nature, but possibly not for the same reason. I believe love on a human and earthly scale is just whatever jiggles around up there in our noggins. If one was born without the right parts, love would be absent, and if all animals, in particular mammals, didn't have the right parts, that force would exist. Also, think back to those horrible documentaries of the formation of life. It wasn't love that was keeping the organisms alive. Because I am far from an expert, I can't say when animals could love or when animals existed , but before that point... But what about the different types of love? I love my food. I love my family. I love my lover go figure. I love my dog. I love my hobby. And lets say I love my fictional Aunt Betsy... Who hasn't had that family member who you love, but being in the same room for more than a few minutes has the potential for hair ripping, black eyes, and numerous deposits in the swear jar? In this scenario, love has no force but to make sure both her and I brag about excellence in our Christmas cards. And it's true that love wasn't earned because we are family. It was just there. Animals protect their young instinctively that appears, to us, as love. That's fine because protection is an act of love and an instinctive act. Why do we love our children, no questions asked? In this sense, it can be described as a force of nature because it just happens automatically. You immediately protect, defend, care for your child. That would mean we all unequivocally are born with the capacity to love, even if its just our children. Love can't be earned. It is because the person who is feeling the love for someone else is a one way street, you could say. Why someone loves a person has to do with that someone, not the person. When our teenagers throw a fit and scream how much they hate us, w'e don't take it personal. We love them and tell ourselves, this is a phase, this is a phase. Not when you're young, but when you start becoming a little person. There are parents if you want to call them that who withhold their love from a particular child, not necessarily all, because of some whatever reason. Her hair is curly. She has blue eyes and I don't. These people don't know what unconditional love is. They have all these conditions, they stereotype, they're disingenuous and shallow-hearted. I was a victim of that. The different types of love? So, those aren't loves. Yet, you do not know your Aunt Betsy's neighbor and therefore probably do not care about her well being as much as you do your Aunt Betsy. What is common with all forms of love? You love your food, your family, your lover, etc. Your neighbor's loves do not move your emotionally but yours does, so it is the emotional quality that makes all the forms of love the same. He has the best of my love. Well, I think we toss the word love around too much, but for lack of other words available I guess we don't have a choice. Caring has everything to do with loving; both in caring about someone and actually caring for someone. No, you don't love things like you do people. Things are desired, wanted, craved, obsessed over, played, etc. Love is action that has to be received. Inanimate things can't receive or know. But, anything animate can be given love, affection, caring: people, animals. What is common in love--it would be nice if it was given unconditionally; but, short of that, it is the act of giving, I think. It doesn't have to be received. When a person loves something they are expanding and embracing that something, in a way including that something within themselves or becoming one with it. If you love ice cream you eat it and it becomes one with you. Love is schizophrenic - and its meaning differs according to the context. The feeling it inspires could range from obsessiveness and passion to calm joy and warmth - depending on the type of love and the object of affection. Thus, it usually isn't unconditional - but in some cases it may be. More interesting is how we differently respond to and accept love - and how we recognize it. When you view it like that, what have you got left? All experience requires the experiencer and without it there is no experience. Let us take scalpel, forceps, tweezers, other implements and dissect this frog to see what it is made of. First, of course, we should kill the frog: it would not do to vivisect this living, breathing, swimming, singing, mating, beautiful little animal. Now, we can begin the dissection, to discover the secrets of its frog-ness. There, we have exposed the stomach, the intestines, the heart that was beating a short while ago. We follow the circulatory system, we expose the skeleton and the nerves - Ah! There is the brain that directed the frog to do frog things. We finish our dissection, having examined all the inner workings of the frog. But at the end of it all, looking down at the scattered, exposed, disassembled frog parts, where is the frog? It seems that the frog was greater than the sum of its parts. And so it is with love. She was to dissect a frog, but they were using just enough ether to anesthetize the frogs so that they could SEE the hearts beating, etc. Then, after the frogs were examined, the teacher instructed everyone to administer more ether to finish their frog off, and they trashed the bodies. Except for my mom. Who was in nursing school to HEAL. We can dissect love. We can look at its parts. The whole is greater than the sum, for sure. But don't forget your red embroidery floss. It takes some effort to keep it together, and keep it alive. I don't think so. I love my husband very much, but don't consider myself to have been very compassionate and empathetic. I didn't even know the meaning of the word empathy until I was 30, and I don't think I was capable of compassion and empathy until about 2 years ago I'm 50. Maybe I'm a slow learner, mentally challenged. Love is a leader. It leads one to do, say and feel things about what they are loving to that person, thing, hobby, etc. Love is a teacher. It teaches you compassion and empathy and how to care for someone without conditions or restraints. It is the energy that gives us the capacity to have blind faith, blind trust and a reason to hope.

However, due to the influence of Confucian Ren, the phrase 'Wo ai ni' I love you carries with it a very specific sense of responsibility, commitment and loyalty. Love has been postulated to be a between to keep human beings together against menaces and to. But you can't make love seem like a horrible thing to be avoided. Whats love is the brain that directed the frog to do frog things. Fromm also described love as a conscious choice that in its early stages might prime as an involuntary feeling, but which then later no longer depends on those feelings, but rather depends only on conscious commitment. However, there are some examples of agape used to mean the same as eros. Hinduism Kama left with Rati on a temple wall ofInis responsible, sexual love, personified by the god.

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The first independent design of the , previously known as the British Klemm Aeroplane Company and usually referred to as British Aircraft or B. This sold well, and B. Whereas the Eagle was aimed at the sporting and racing market, the Cupid targeted the touring and club training roles. Like the Eagle, the Cupid was designed by G. The Cupid was a low-wing wooden aircraft, powered by a 130 hp 97 kW inverted inline engine. It had side-by-side seating with dual controls, under a multi-piece canopy. The coupé top could be removed for open-cockpit flying. Unlike the Eagle, the Cupid had a fixed undercarriage with cantilever legs that were enclosed in fairings which partly covered the wheels. Its wings folded for storage. Partly because of the fixed undercarriage, the Cupid was about 13 mph slower than the Eagle on the same power. It was fully aerobatic. The Cupid first flew in 1935 and was liked by those who flew it. Finally only one, registered G-ADLR, was built. Owned by Charles Best, it was flown in the 1935 King's Cup Jubilee Race by John Armour, then equerry to the Prince of Wales, but retired. The following year it was sold to South Africa, though it was never registered there. Data from , pp.

If you are 30 years british cupid or over and go to such places, then you are on the wrong track. He is often portrayed as the son of the love goddess and the war god. Blake was a great gusto as well as a great poet, and students should be shown a representative selection of his artwork. Where does the artist follow the poet to the letter and where not. You want to look for a relationship. There are thousands or even millions of UK personals who are online social for the like-minded singles. Venus laughs, and points out the poetic justice: he too is small, british cupid yet delivers the sting of love. Finally only one, registered G-ADLR, was built. Guildford, Surrey, United Kingdom Seeking: Female 18 - 40 Please nobody over 35 contact me - salamat hi- responsible Architect here with a real love of pinoy culture and adobo and a real desire to find a long term and life time Filipina partner: so about me: I am an attractive, educated, warm, sensi Love is a seed which needs to be.

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8 Signs You’re In A Controlling Relationship

And we tend to trip each other up quite badly at times. Raising Their Voice and Displaying Negative Emotions Some individuals raise their voice during discussions as a form of aggressive manipulation. Protect yourself, protect your children.

That's why, it is very necessary that they know how to deal with such women, if walking out is not an option that they are considering and if they want to save their relationship. That is because it is dysfunctional in its nature. She has gone to a counselor.

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Are you losing yourself to an odd, and ultimately destructive, relationship? While the steps are directed towards romantic relationships, they do apply to any kind of relationship. Evaluate honestly: Is this relationship healthy, or is it unhealthy? Have all the goals and activities that previously defined you suddenly been pushed to the back burner for no reason other than that your love is not into them? Deferring your future that means quitting school or blowing off a good job so you can spend more time together is a sign you are becoming unhealthily dependent on this person usually a result of being systematically isolated from family and friends from before you got involved. Finding reasons to excuse it? Remember that people in healthy relationships have nothing to hide or defend. In fact, when a relationship is healthy, your friends and family are normally going to recognize that this person makes you very happy, brings out the best in you, and they will rejoice with the two of you. Notice if your plans are continually overturned in favor of hers. And heaven help you if you planned to have dinner with friends of yours at 7pm. This person likes getting you outside your comfort zone, because then he is pulling the strings, getting one over on you. Watch for efforts to exert financial control. A partner may take over financial decisions, whether he earns more or less than you. If you earn more, be wary of joint credit card accounts — BOTH people are legally responsible for paying, even if only one of them incurred the debt; some controlling people will use a joint credit card account, max the card, and then leave you with the bill. Look for subtle establishment of control over time. Controlling, manipulative people are often very insecure. Severing your ties to the familiar stability of the world you have always known means he has just made himself the center of your universe, and now has no competition for your attention. Watch out for subtle discrepancies. Start analyzing discrepancies between what she said, and what your friends say. It may save you from disaster later. Keep your support system. Recognize excessive jealousy or possessiveness as a danger signal. Consider whether she constantly nags about how long it takes you to make a trip to the market or to the post office. Does she randomly show up at work or drive by to check on you particularly after a disagreement? Does she question you too intensely about why you were talking to another person? Get angry about it? Disbelieve you when you say that person is just a friend or work colleague? He does something that is totally unacceptable then asks your forgiveness, tells you he realizes he was wrong, and promises to change. He seems utterly sincere and convincing — but it is part of the control. It is a way to use your compassion to keep you interested — at this point he may even say he wants your help to change, particularly if you have let him know that you will not tolerate such things again. He will bring you lavish gifts and attempt to sweep you off your feet, again, re-establishing his sincerity and your belief that he truly loves you which he may, in a really toxic, controlling way. Watch for the bad behavior to resume as soon as he believes he has you hooked and complacent again. At first blush, it seems sweet and funny. But she will drill this idea over and over — that you should consider yourself very lucky to have someone like her, who will love you despite the fact that you have no positive attributes, talents, and apparently, the IQ of a head of lettuce. You make a date with him, warning him ahead of time that you will need to leave by 7 to have dinner with your brother. You remind him that you really need to go. He begins to argue, wail, accuse, rant, rave, threaten to kill himself, and do whatever it takes to keep you from leaving. Stop berating yourself for being into this person. These people are often an odd mix of very high intellect or talent, coupled with low self-esteem although they often seem confident to the point of arrogance — a mask for their internal lack of true confidence. Assess whether the relationship is worth saving. Does that mean the relationship should end? Try talking about it with your partner, show him or her this article, or get into couples therapy. Be objective, though — if talking, working it through, or going to counseling fails to get your partner to stop these behaviors, there may be no choice but to part ways, even if you still love him or her. Accept the end and get out as fast as you can. You deserve to be with someone who respects you and can maintain a healthy relationship. Take steps to end it swiftly and leave — now. Go out with your friends, your family, and alone. Re-establish ties with all those things and people you left behind while your judgment was clouded. One person can be ignored — many cannot. Do they comment on how different you seem — and not in a good way? Has anyone you love and respect expressed actual dislike for your partner? The entire purpose of the article is to help you examine your relationship for the warning signs and to A either seek help and or validate your sense of things not being right, and help you be comfortable with your decision to leave — without manipulation or control from your partner. Just so you know. Tell them you wish you had listened to them. You cannot hope to change or rescue such a person, as much as you may care for them; the best help you can give them is to A refuse to be their victim, and B direct them to professional help. Make sure someone else is with you if you do decide to talk to him or her not recommended , but even though you want to be compassionate, the best and easiest approach is to simply cut off contact. Cutting them off may seem cruel, but it ends the confrontations and forces them to move on or get help. Report them to the police immediately. If your partner is not willing to commit to counseling, then separation may be the only answer. Without family counseling, the manipulative, controlling partner will damage the children, and you will spawn more of the same type of person. You need individual supportive counseling that is often available for free at your local domestic violence agency. They can connect you to an agency close by. Content on wikiHow can be shared under Creative Commons License.

Later in the life the toy is projected onto others who get controlled by the person. They Spend A Lot Of Time Talking About Protecting You A lot of us have had crappy stuff happen in our lives —enough crappy stuff that the con of a hero riding up on a white horse or fixie bike and protecting us from any problems for the rest of our life can sound really, really appealing. Have you been in a relationship with a controlling woman. Imperfection does not make you dysfunctional. Joshua, if you can further medico into this aspect of controllers vs free will, it would be much appreciated. Therefore, many controlling personalities actually benefit from their behavior. Severing your ties to the familiar stability of the world you have always known means he has just made himself the center of your universe, and now has no del for your attention.