He Doesn’t “Know What He Wants?” Learn How To Respond To This

They will only take advantage of you by disrespecting your values. Talk to him about what you want and ask him for a deadline.

You have to know your own self worth. For much too long women have been told and taught to give up what we want to please others—especially for the men in our lives. We begin to lose ourselves in our identity as a woman and we begin to lose ourselves in the relationship.

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I know this statement well. In the past, hearing this sentence made me want to hurl something large, expensive, and fragile across the room or at the man who said it. I once considered this statement a cop-out, a line guys used so they could continue sleeping with you without having to commit to you. However, after copious reading, reflection, trial and error, and hundreds of testimonials from my blog readers, I now know what the dreaded phrase means. One possible reason you might hear this phrase is that your man realizes that you know exactly what you want, and he cannot—or is not willing to—give you what you want. He hopes that you will get the hint and understand that this relationship is not going any further. Your job is not to be his mother, his therapist, or the midwife to his unbirthed emotions. Your job in a relationship is to present your most authentic, happy, and healthy self to another person, and to be willing to accept and love the other person. Brainy girls tend to fall in the trap of being the Perfectly Reasonable Dater. This is a decision that a man must come to on his own in his own time. In order to have a fully committed partner, you must give a man enough space to figure out what he wants on his own. Get to know yourself, what you want for your life, and what you want out of a relationship. You might be a Dating Diva, a woman who knows how to date with dignity and without fear. This is who I want all women—including myself—to be. The Dating Diva knows that men do not do anything they do not want to do. Men are often slower than women at processing experiences and emotions. A man can easily coast in a relationship for years, taking the path of least resistance and never speaking up about his unhappiness, and then poof! When a man expresses his uncertainty about being in a relationship with you, give him ample space and time to reflect. Give him time to miss you. Men fall in love with women when they long for them—not when they are persuaded or guilt-tripped into being with them. Let whatever is supposed to happen play out naturally without your planning and plotting. Have the dignity to walk away from an unfulfilling, ambiguous situation. You owe it to yourself! And then if there is still room in your life and in your heart, you can consider letting him back in. Remember this: men persistently pursue what they want—especially when they know exactly what they are missing. Real men go after what they want. So there you have it. I love reading about men, relationships, love, and communication. However, rather than trying to remember tons of rules and exhaust myself with mental gymnastics in attempts to keep a guy, I focus on chasing my own joy—not any guy or relationship. This is the only thing I can control, and that will make me happier no matter what happens in the relationship. Sometimes, after having time and space to think, your guy will conclude that he does not want the relationship after all. Have the courage to face the reality of your incompatible desires and expectations—whether for the relationship or for life in general. Doing so frees you to find The One who genuinely wants the same things you want out of life. Letting go frees you to be with someone who wants to pursue his ideal life with you.

Think he is reconsidering go back home, to a person who made his life miserable doing it entirely for his elements and not for him. But I see women do it all the time. Ultimately the two of you should complement each other, you are adding to the other. Sometimes we need to stop and take a step back to really see the other person for who they are or could be if there is a guy doesnt know what he wants desire to change for ourselves. We started this with both of us not really wanting a commitment but the way he has been acting and the way I have been feeling I want that commitment now. Is he wondering if he wants to be in a sol at all. I know that morning, I put him on the spot because after a year I was more than a little tired of the roller coaster ride I was on with him starting and ending things-he always ended them after we had an amazing weekend together. I have been met for over 5 yrs…and my bf was married once for 7, divorced, and no kids. What should i do. The answer to that will determine the fate of your relationship: Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material the type of woman he commits himself to or if he sees you as just a fling. His value has much to do with his self-worth. Your problem here is your addiction to the jerk.