Online dating: The 10 biggest messaging sins

My experience with eHarmony was I got matched with fake profiles. My date tomorrow is: a drive down the Pacific Coast to Pismo Beach for the weekend. I found it to be mildly interruptive to feeling intimate together.

If they are shallow about that, they must be shallow and insecure about other things in life too. What that reason is however is beyond my comprehension.

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How to Outsmart eHarmony By , March 1, 2011 My God. My eHarmony subscription is paid up through June. According to my eHarmony Conspiracy Theory, they therefore began padding my daily matches with the sort of men who, to be frank, made me think that spinsterhood might not be such a bad idea after all. First it was one or two duds every day. Then three or four. Then, last month, nothing but duds, and even then the deluge of vertically challenged, linguistically challenged, entirely- not-for-me men eventually slowed to a sad, steady trickle. At last count, I was receiving only two or three matches per day. So I decided to outsmart eHarmony. And it was genius, because it worked. Can you imagine, for example, if I were to start writing about my online dating endeavors, and all I kept saying was how I was getting matched up with one fatty after another, or how every girl I came across was an uggo? We are obviously more concerned with looks that you are. However, before you start calling names, think about the irrational leaps you are taking. Just because she values physical appearance does not mean that that is all she values. Nice try at defending outright, plain-as-day bigotry, though. Who Here is my story and dictum toward Kat Richter and eharmony. I put myself through undergraduate at Oxford University while modeling and riding race horse. I continued on with my fellowship at Cambridge and was decorated with a PH. While traveling in Moscow Russia for a photo shoot I met the love of my life, Oxsana. She was also a model and had a station of 6 feet on the dot. Very tall is really the point here! She was modeling for Ford at the time and had a MS degree in organic chemistry under her belt as well. Yes, some models are very savvy. We got on well and married, which lasted for 18 year until she passed away from cancer. As for me, I am a highly educated man, have good looks, take care of myself and I am well off when it comes to my monetary prowess I only have to work because I choose to work. I have two wonderful children as well, a boy and a girl. In my home we speak English, Russian and Polish and we have a home in Moscow and Krakow Poland and live in San Francisco as it is our home base city. I am a very reserved man, have many interest and love being a father to my children. I can tell you all I dislike pretentious people as well and I come from a humble wellspring. In other words, I worked hard for what I have. Even though I made legions of money while being a male model in Europe plus riding horses for some extra lolly. When you couple that with a Graduate degree in Clinical Neurosciences, she would rather date a man that is taller than I, just because he is taller. She could care less what is on the inside of a man or what and man has actually achieved. The word shallow does best fit Kat. After reading her little essay, it was easy to conclude that she is shallow. But she is not the only one. I have had a profile up on eharmony for 8 months now and I created my own profile that reaped no joy no dates. As a last ditch effort I ask a close and dear friend to my late wife to create my profile with me two months ago and still no joy. I am completely being ignored, not a single response, ZERO! But, three weeks ago I met a French women, owner of a local restaurant here in San Francisco and we got on well, first date was great and we are on for a second date this weekend. It is really sad and pathetic if you ask me and Kat is the norm, not the exception to the rule. The entire emprise on eharmony for me was an etude into the shoal minds of American women and I say this as an American man, born and raised in the USA, but educated in the UK. Who, Well said…with the exception of a few things. That is the truth and quite frankly it disgusts me how close-minded people can be. Second, to group all or a great deal as you put it American women into the category of shallow is wrong and extremely judgmental of you. While EVERYONE out there is shallow to some extent yes, probably even you , I do NOT consider myself a shallow person and pride myself on the fact that I am open-minded and always give guys I meet a chance regardless or height, etc. I also agree with you that eHarmony is a joke and a huge waste of time. I mean look, you closed your eHarmony account and already found an amazing women without hiding behind a computer screen. Who, sorry for your loss and I wish you and everyone else on here the best of luck in their quest for true love. Who, it will probably infuriate you even more. The European sounds wonderful! Also, I was a pro ballerina at one point many years ago and had been dancing since I was two. I know all too well the body issues that go along with this industry. It took a very long time still is , but I too am finally coming to terms with the fact that I do look pretty damn good without that skinny mirror. I always love hearing from others who were in the same boat and are learning to love themselves and the way they look. Large, tone calves look awesome in heels! One of them main reasons why I love wearing them. I heard enough comments over the years about my body not being good enough gotta love the dance world! Best of luck to you. The European and I did in fact meet online, about 3 months ago at this point. I wish these kids would realize they are all beautiful, but sometimes only time, experiences good and bad and wisdom will allow them to really realize how being tall can be a great thing. Even I had issues with my height once I started sprouting. All your students should go audition for the Rockettes. They would feel incredible about their heights! I danced for the Charleston Ballet Theater in Charleston, SC. Very small contemporary ballet company. So I went to college for something completely different. Also I auditioned for the Rockettes once as well and they totally under-measured me too! Who I can only lend commentary on what you wrote here in this blog, Kat. I felt very quizzical with respect to why it came to pass that not a single women replied to the questions I sent out. I tried bypassing the questions as well and still nothing. So the interrogative side of me set an urge in motion to find out what the flip is wrong with the women on eharmony, hence I ran across your thread here. The fact of the matter is there is a big delta between American women and women around the world when it comes to interaction with a man. Your words in the blog you started here confirm what I wrote like it or not. Everyone has a change of heart, I have had a ton in my life, but I would be willing to bet my home that you would never date and marry a man that is my height or shorter than I. On the other hand I could actually see you dating a man much taller than you but not in the turnabout. As for me grouping American women into a selfish soup of sort. There are hoards of cultural anthropological studies that echo my very view of American women as a whole. Men are flocking overseas at alarming rates to conjoin with women. This is something that is a rather new manifestation. In my case, it was not planned or contrived to marry someone from another country, it just happened. The revers is also turn when it comes to non American men. American men tend to treat women much more equal and respectful as as opposed to men around the world. If I were gay, I would run for the hills when it comes to dating an man from another country. If you like being a slave date and marry a man from the Middle East, excluding Israel. You would get a total change of heart from me if you were actually dating a man that is really short. There is an old saying in the south, talk is cheap and actions are dear. Here is a bit of human history for you as well. For the most part men have been short over human history. It has only been in the past 300 years that men have grown taller in non South African nations. I own a kings bed from 1650 and I had to have Tempur-Pedic make a special mattress for me a great cost. In fact men once again are starting to get shorter in Eastern Europe. The point I am trying to make is this, most all women are taller than I. American women on both eharmony and Match would not give me the time of day, even if hell froze over and they do so without a single word being exchanged. European women are right minded when it comes to this, and American women are problematic. I have had 4 girlfriends in my life, and I married on of them. Kooky enough I have never once dated an American women even though I tried , not one was interested and a few over the years that I did ask out when I was single, all politely said no. So this is my tails as small man. My date tomorrow is: a drive down the Pacific Coast to Pismo Beach for the weekend. I have a date with one next week, have a phone conversation going with another one. The point or the truth here for me is … I do so much better in person!! Online EVERYONE is shallow, me included. In person my humor and charm can distract you from my belly! The event was sponsored by Match. It was called something like The Great Love Debate, and it was in a theatre. I realize you mentioned your affluence to prove a point, Dr. But since I brought it up, if a woman greatly values wealth is she being practical? Can money buy love? I will say one thing about Kat kind of in her defense. If we have a great experience with someone outside our zone of attraction, we sometimes start to shift. Good luck with the French woman and sorry to hear about your beautiful wife. And the diaper thing is just bizarre; I think you were right to steer clear of that one! I wonder if Dr. Choosing someone for their finances is just another form of being shallow, but at what point is shallow actually, to some extent, practical? I may not agree with you, and many of the things you wrote irritated me. But, certainly you judge too quickly when you dispose of a man because of his height. In fact, last night 10 of us had an Oscars party that was not an official group activity. I am now utterly convinced that online dating is a highly flawed and sometimes even dishonest tool for meeting people. I quit my online profiles. I only discovered them in October. You take in their full energy. Not just some 2 dimensional representation of what they want you to see. There is a woman in the group that I always thought was attractive. But I got to know this woman over time, over about 3 months in our meetings which were 1-2 times a week. Live in the moment. Both of us are past the kid stage — have kids who have flown the nest or are about to fly. Congrats on finding a great woman and meeting some great new people! I agree with you about online dating. I did the online dating thing for about 5 years on and off. When I finally chose to end my subscription I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I felt like I was finally really putting myself out there into the universe instead of sitting behind a computer screen. Turns out he was also on eHarmony, but we were never matched. Like I said, online dating works for some people, but for those who are struggling, it helps to get out of you own head and try a new way to meet people. My boyfriend is the same height as me and has blonde hair. I always pictured myself with a man who was at least 6 inches taller than me. And blonde hair on a guy? My boyfriend is the only blonde haired man I have ever found attractive and to me, he is the most attractive man on the planet. I tried eHarmony, simply looking for a man, without a wife or ex-wife, that has at least a moderate level of intelligence, and basic morals. Does that make me a bad person? I think not, but apparently eHarmony can not respect my choices. I am sorry to hear of your loss and wish you the best of luck in your search! Have you had any better luck with some of the other sites? Being a widow must draw the scammers out. I guess they think being a widow makes a woman an easy target. Thanks for the condolences. I am blessed to have known what true love and romance is. At least I have many GOOD memories. Confident is one thing. Smug and self-important is another. Most of us never get to have that. After reading this, I would not date you. Have you ever considered going on real dates, acting like the princess you do here, and seeing how quality guys with good self-esteem respond. I think you would totally turn them off. It sounds like you have a chip on your shoulder and possibly should be starting to look a bit more at yourself than rant here. But, our superficial culture irritates me. But, love is based on so much more than superficial qualities. True love is not determined by height discrepancies. Sorry I was so harsh to you earlier. Happy hunting, and you really did do some nice investigative work on eHarmony. But, I may be wrong. Ya know, I am kinda curious now how tall she is. Because how shallow I think she is will likely be dependent on her actual height. So, Grey: where do you live? Haha you seem like a fun date. Thank you so much. It makes me thing my personality test was all wrong. Yes, in some respects it is shallow. But you have to think about it this way. When you look at a room full of people, there are certain things that attract you more than others. For example, blondes, butts, green eyes. Height is just one of those things. For Kat to say that she is only looking for tall men, is no different than saying I am looking for blonde women. Women insisting on men much taller than they are. It is no different than if I guy would insist on women with large boobs. Your comments about not asking for someone with certain dance skills are ironic, because a person can learn to dance. I have no idea what this fascination with height is all about. My brother gives me a hard time about this too. Also, my father happens to be a foot taller than my mother, so I am genetically predisposed to think this sort of height variance is not only normal but desirable my parents will have been married for 29 years next month! By which I mean the degree to which I feel sexy on a date. And who wants to be reminded of how awkward they were in high school? We are allowed to have preferences for other parts of our lives. Why is height any different from religious preference, location, education, or any of the other crazy questions on the list. Give me a break Dennis…are you willing to date anyone? This is the world we live in. On line dating is about putting people into categories. Deal with it… At least Kat and many others of us as well are willing to be straight up about it. Like I said, though, if you wanna be shallow, go right ahead. Regardless, the only reason I told Kat her attitude bothers me is because we write together on a group blog that supposedly tries to be not so shallow. Height is a big pre-requisite in my books. Especially for the fact Im a High Heel obsessive. I could never do a Nicole and Tom situation. Kat — Stick to your guns lady, and make sure you get a nice pair of HIGH heels for the date the PSM when he asks you out. Landlord must be a young-Earth creationist. Having dated shorter guys before I gotta say it is pretty fantastic to be with someone who is taller than me and I definitely do love that. I fall in love with a guy, and he is the most handsome man in the world after that! Which is great, but as I get older, I realize the height issue is a bit more of a practical concern. When a man is shorter then a woman I feel both parties feel insecure. It is about comfort, when you kiss, is it comfortable? When you cuddle do you feel comfortable, or awkward? I was totally enamoured with the guy who was shorter then I was, but I feel like dating someone taller then himself made him feel emasculated. I found it to be mildly interruptive to feeling intimate together. On the other hand, I think guys can make the same argument about breast size, butt size, looks, etc. I feel like these attraction tendencies are part of life and are healthy when not taken too far. Shallow or not, we all have our own preferences. Anyway, I hope this new PSM sweeps you off your feet! Or at least creates some more fun entries! I have about two months left at eH and I am noticing that all of a sudden my matches are guys I would actually want to date. It got me thinking…they just want more of my money! And wow, way to rip on Dennis. But everyone has had good points on this discussions. Good luck to all in the dating world! Height was for them a serious issue. Different strokes for different folks, I suppose? She said tall women may be more open to dating me than I might think. On the other hand, I get to read stuff like this. Crossing someone off the list over shoes is indeed a shallow practice. You may be expressing your own personal preferences, but you are conditioning men to avoid perfectly suitable dates because we start believing in a world where women want to date much taller men. If you can nail height that info perfectly each time just by looking at people, you have an interesting ability. Anyway though, good luck to you in getting dates. The shorter women seem to be MUCH more hung-up on height. It has nothing to do with heels or how I want to feel in his arms. They had to be tougher or more successful or richer, never just themselves. I am not opposed to women wanting a guy approximately their height or even a little taller. But to insist on them being a half foot or more taller is absurd, and in my view, as shallow as a guy insisting on D cups. Then they turn around and complain how hard it is to meet good people. The weight issue is a bit of a trick with eH, because there is no screening for body type, and some women work very hard or simply lie to conceal their weight. I would imagine men do the same with height and weight. They are similar, and the double standard is unfair, any way you slice it. How much did they pay you? Turning off an account for a week or more, is simply short-changing yourself. If eHarmony is unable to deliver on their promise, then it should be called out as such — eHarmonys messaging is misleading, because it we all know that they ration their match deliviery to maximize profit. That is, if you pay for just a month, you get ~10 good matches. If you pay for a 3 months subscription, you get ~30 good matches. Algorithm: most people think that they are compatible with whomever they consider good looking. Sounds like a typical eharmony profile…the reality is a little different from the enhanced profile. I just let my membership expire after about a year of using EH. If made me skeptical that EH was just rationing matches and that the compatibility criteria are not actually what they say. I have had mixed experiences with EH. But I guess people can answer those questions however they want — and he was smart and manipulative enough to game the system. I did meet several nice guys. One became a friend. Several were good guys, just lacked the spark. However, the men of my dating pool South Florida are super shallow. I would occasionally turn on nationwide matching and get some awesome guys, which always made me want to move away. I stopped that because it just made me feel worse about my prospects locally, and a long distance relationship is just so unrealistic. To me I get way to many matches to say that they are all a good match. So I thought to share my view. Unfortunately, height seems to be a very important criteria in this society. So I guess, tall women and short men have to keep looking and keep the spirits up for the right person to come into their lives. May be an aggressive male would match better with a calm female. Also people adapt, learn new things and change between 25-35 yrs and partners play a role in their psychological development. I had been reading about the Myers-Briggs Types and apparently the matching is not that straight forward. Good luck to everyone. Being over a foot taller than my partner just FEELS right. I find those types often tend to be self-conscious and insecure about their height. When I explain I only date short women, they get upset! Are there tall women out there who are otherwise physically attractive to me, and who would be a kind, loving, and loyal partner? Will my refusal to date them based on their height make my search harder? I find those types often tend to be self-conscious and insecure about their height. Where are you from? I would love to have eHarmony filter my matches based on answers to questions. That way I can avoid getting matched with people like this. Am I wrong here? Is Kat from 10,000 BC too? You are undoubtedly rejecting and hurting countless fine women because of that, besides severely reducing your own dating pool. If that is your true self, I think you ought to reevaluate who you are. Having some reasonable physical requirements is one thing, but yours are extreme. You have closed yourself off to a variety of attractive woman, both intellectually and physically, by being so specific. That is not true. That is denying yourself of knowing and loving woman in a real honest…true way! I believe it is the same for woman who are overly picky about a mans height or appearance. Come on people, love trumps all! If you are judging potential loves on small details, you are missing the point. You also must be judging yourself as harshly! And holding your own self to these silly standards! I could not agree with you more. I think we can all agree that having some preferences is fine, but we have to be a little open minded, and not immediately reject people off over extreme and rigid standards. It just makes dating and finding someone special all the harder for everyone. You hit the nail on the head. People need to get to know each other for who they are as people before dismissing them for superficial reasons. I value a partner based on their intellect, long-term potential, values, education, career, empathy, ability to be a reliable mate. It was intellect that made us strong. Our ancestor females picked intellect in their mates. These days, we are raised with social pressures from the cradle starting with the pink-blue nonsense which was reverse less than a century ago. Most men are intimidated by my education, job title, patents, etc Men approach me based on my appearance. However, I have to underplay all my accomplishments to get most men to speak with me for too long unless they are much older than I and secure in their careers. My shallowness is not with height, it is with age. I need someone closer to my age who is secure about himself. About women who choose based on height, you should thank them for eliminating themselves from your dating pool. If they are shallow about that, they must be shallow and insecure about other things in life too. Instead of worrying about those women, focus on the ones that do count. I especially like your closing comments. While it is frustrating and sometimes painful to be rejected by women over height especially by women several inches shorter than ourselves! Would I ever date a woman taller than me? Look it up ladies; men of all ages are dropping out of this race altogether. Enjoy your spot in the harem while it lasts, — oh, and learn to love cats. Dennis has been right all along. But I just may try this as well. I realize that not everyone is a genius, but there has to be something to work with. If there is absolutely no physical attraction whatsoever, then making a relationship work is going to be rather difficult. It sucks, but it happens. Same goes for women. So, to make a long story short too late! Have you tried some of the more niche sites that match people with specific religious beliefs? Three years ago and people are still commenting on the original post. Seriously, I woke up at 6:00am to the sound of WordPress app pinging away on my cell phone. This is one of the two main problems I have had in all of my dating life. I am 49 now. My problem is the height and the gray hair since age 18. I wrote my autobiography so I do not want to write again but I will try to be brief. I am very talkative. Anyway, when I was younger, it was more of the hair that scared away women my age or younger as I got older. Still the same today. And I wanted to have children.. I do not want to be a clown by dying my hair! Hence, the same with the make ups women have on. No offense but I call them clowns. Make ups and dying hair hides the real you. The problem with women with height I can see are mostly taller and way few shorter than I am. The shorter ones say I am too short for them! I do like a woman in stilettos and heels and to me height does not matter to me. It is the bedroom that makes the differences! Have you noticed that, ladies? I was never a paid member of eH. Because right before I thought of signing up, I found out many men my height or shorter gets discriminated. I even heard a lawsuit about that. And the filing with BBB about eH. I refused to sign up. Not a single PAID dating site. Only women that are willing to accept me for my height are the Filipinas!! Long distance, the legal complication to marry one, or to move there.. American women, no offense, are more spoiled, more too focused on appearance. I am bitterly disappointed and saw how shallow women are with their height choices. Even made out with them! I am not saying humor in this comment because I am dead serious on how wrong attitude women are. You will have to read my autobio when it comes out.. One more thing I did not say is a third barrier I face: I am Deaf. So I have triple handicap of searching someone. Hearing women say I am too deaf and afraid to communicate with me. Deaf women are avoiding me because they wanted someone so radical true-to-core Deaf man with same beliefs that Deaf are better than Hearing. I am not like that. I also did not say one more let alone.. My Christian faith is also limiting the pool too. Again, the book, watch out for it. It is about my hardships and experiences I endured all my life to this day! I am searching for my bride who is sweet, honest, kind, smart, beautiful, romantic, and LOVES ME for who I am! I am a 5 foot 10 black dude. I see nothing wrong with having a height requirement, To each their own. For me personally, I tend to stay away from women who wear heels all the time. So if you are a shorter guy getting no from a taller woman. If you are doing the whole online dating thing. Just look at how she carries herself in her photos. If you see a more of a barbie type of look with a lot a makeup and things like that. Most likely, this woman will care about things like height. When it comes to dating. While eHarmony never matched me with the guy I am currently dating we met through friends , he is seriously the best guy ever. Not a scammer or a player in any way. Great job eHarmony with the matching! On another note, I completely understand people have their preferences and are attracted to who they are attracted to tall versus short, larger versus skinny , but people need to stop being so close-minded. Give the short ones a chance. They are just as good if not better! I like longer hair, and nice collar bones, like the ones you can see. The only thing 3 things I need from a woman, is her to be catholic, and love god. Then I read it a second time, and I think he was talking about agreeing on spanking children as a way to discipline. Why this would be so important and a deal breaker is odd. I can say Lkk, as a guy who spanked my daughter once in her life to shock her when she touch a hot stove when she was 2 — it was a very controlled action , you can bring up a great child without using corporal punishment. I am totally okay with the former as long as it is something that both parties are comfortable with as opposed to the ridiculous and completely sadistic 50 Shades version of BDSM but I think this is a different story. Tell me, when kids were brought up during 1980s or so, was there not less crime? My mom can remember trust and not fearing people, physical do alpine teaches kids there are reactions to their actions, and they need to learn that the world is not all about themselves. I believe people would respect others if they felt pain caused by their own deeds. I would never hurt my wife! Hurting woman is just wrong, woman should be held with honor and dignity. Second, if my kid where to hit his brother or sis, he would egg a light spank, why, cause it shows him the pain he inflicted, it shows him when he does something wrong, he will be held accountable and responsible for the pain they cause. Why would anyone allow their kids to do as they please? Today, I heard a kid cuss, and flick another kid off. If he is acting like this now, how would he act with a lady? How would he treat her? The way your original post was written led several of us to believe you were talking about hitting your potential wife, not spanking your potential kids. Woman are not objects, or tools. They are loving caring people, more so then men. Most men are jerks and pervs, and woman have their own things to deal with, without having to try and act like a man. Men and woman are not physically equal, but I believe they should have the same rights. I think that pedants that are not afraid to spank their kid when needed, are raising their kid right. If I could say something to every parent, it would be. When you tell your kid something, make it stick. I have been on eharmony, match, plenty of fish, okcupid, and a few other sites and have yet to find any success. I am tall, athletic, kind, educated, and have a great career that pays well, but what good does any of that do me when no woman can look past my face. The face is the first thing that a potential match sees from your profile, even before your height, age, etc. So, short guys, quit complaining about your height becuase it could be worse, you could be in my shoes. Looks, looks and looks blinds you all from values and actual personality. And clearly it is to you. Everyone thinks they are hotter than they are. But those people are all idiots. One might argue that it is exactly your match. Height is a physical attribute and one that many women have a primal desire for their partners to be taller, and doing so is not superficial. These short people who are complaining, are you saying that yourself, you would be happy going out with a person 50kg overweight as long as she had a nice personality or the opposite, anorexic thin , what about going out with a 4 foot dwarf yourself? What about if you liked large breasts and she had none, er even missing an arm or wheelchair bound? One of the most unattractive qualities for both sexes is whining! Dudes complaining about online dating: grasp that it is NOT the women per say. Meanwhile, guys who are ever eager to meet, greet and boink are online in spades! So discussions move to private blogs like this one. Abandon eHarm people and spend your money on marbles or gym memberships in the case of you overweight members. Who wants to date fugly, or overweight, or slim and smarmy, or thinkity thinkers, or just moralizing dweebos like the rest of you here. They will rip you off though. Go ahead, try to sue me Eharmoney. READ IT HERE FOLKS. Then I will move forward reading the profile. In this age of time there is no reason for someone to be single unless your out selling your royal oats. There are plenty of sites, pof, eharmony, match and tinder that is available. To be blunt maybe your not that attractive. But I have seen many unattractive men win due to their status. Another subject I wish to touch. Yes height does matter a lot. When I join tinder the first thing I was ask was my height. My assumption is the fact a female want somone who is more dominant than themselves in physique. As per being logical on height…well, love is illogical, irrational. I am shorter than average male, but have dated women 2 inches taller. My problem with eH is that many of the profiles are fake or no longer in existence. I wish they would at least eliminate the expired profiles. I have found more success with the women in the What If? All in all, I have had the most success on eH. The reason these rules are now in place is the result of the increasing opinion among the majority of women that being short as a man is not masculine, not attractive and not worthy of a lasting partner. Men must adopt new gender stereotypes just as women have and begin to regard women of short stature as less desirable. You will look weird standing next to them, especially if you love to wear dress shoes or boots. We must ensure that future men are not faced with unfair pressures to grow tall and fit into conditioned gender stereotypes. You must seek out tall women that are kind and independent thinkers…tall women that are seeking a man based on his character, interests, achievements, ethics, values and merit, and not his body type. This will be difficult, as these women are extremely rare, but they do exist and you must do your best to find them. If do, you must understand that you are in fact lowering your standards and others will judge you harshly. You need these friend zone women in your life to help give you insider dating advise, provide a shoulder to cry on if a tall woman breaks your heart, or even set you up on a dates with their tall women friends. Take your queues from these such articles and many others that you can easily find online: — — — 7 If any woman questions you on these rules or becomes suspicious or if any woman challenges your freedom to openly express your feelings about short women, you will defend your stance at all costs and hold firm to these rules. And when all else fails, you will put the blame on society…you will claim that as a child, disney movies such as Cinderella and Snow White conditioned you to prefer tall, pale and pretty women, and as you grew older female athletes such as Lisa Leslie and supermodels such as Gisele Bündchen conditioned you to be attracted to tall, leading ladies. But when women want to rule out men because of height its perfectly fine and not shallow at all that was sarcastic. Women will argue that weight is something that can change and height is not. And yes I acknowledge that some women are overweight because of hereditary or some other medical factor but that does not diminish my general point. The higher the percentage the match is, the easier it is mathematically for them to rise to the top of your list. If you recall when you first went through your profile set up, you had to look at photos of random people and favor some of them. It also ranks similarly the fluffy hair, big heads, small chins, and that sort of thing. They are coupling this with the things you prescribe in your search, like geography, kids, etc. The headshot preferences just carry more weight. Other sites, height is simply a category that is adhered to in higher regard, if not absolutely. I wish I had better analogies this late at night.

Civil about your first date. You can't even search for someone that is Polish. It has 4 step s to it. In any case, we must not take this personally. That is denying yourself of knowing and loving woman in a real honest…true way. It is the social that makes the differences!.