Is It Love or Lust?

Your feelings in love Do you feel happy and romantic all day, and find yourself staring at happy things or smiling without realizing it yourself? You can tell this person anything about yourself, even if the truth doesn't flatter you, and you know that your partner will accept you. Probably he would always check me out but i never noticed.

It means caring more about the other person than you do about yourself. This is really hard to quantify, but it is fairly common in both sexes. His astrology readings explain what is happening in your life now and what events will happen in your future. If he really cared, he would talk and converse with you about your concerns.

Is It Love or Lust? - Almost everyone longs to find his or her soulmate, the person they want to grow old with. In the first example, however, chances are I care what my date thinks and want to make a great impression.

Whether your obsession about someone is a sign of love or addiction? Initial attraction stirs up neurotransmitters and hormones that create the excitement of infatuation and a strong desire to be close and sexual with the person. These chemicals and our emotional and psychological makeup can cause us to obfuscate reality and idealize the object of our attraction. Time spent in fantasy fuels our craving to be with him or her. Sex releases oxytocin, the love chemical that makes us want to nest with our partner. As we get to know our lover, we may want to spend more or less time together, depending on what we learn. At this juncture, our brain chemicals as well as our attachment style and psychological issues can lead us to become codependently attached through a romance or love addiction that feels like love, but is more driven by our need for the chemical rush to avoid feelings of abandonment, and low self-esteem. We may remain attached and even crave our partner, but our discomfort or unhappiness grows. Instead of focusing on that, our hunger to be with him or her takes center stage, despite the fact that disturbing facts or character traits arise that are hard to ignore. We may feel controlled or neglected, unsafe or disrespected, or discover that our partner is unreliable, or lies, manipulates, rages, has secrets, or has a major problem, such as drug addiction or serious legal or financial troubles. Increasingly, we hide our worries and doubts and rely on sex, romance, and fantasy to sustain the relationship. These are signs of addiction. However, true love does require that we recognize our separateness and love our mate for who he or she truly is. As the relationship grows, we develop trust and greater closeness. Instead of trying to change our partner, we accept him or her. We want to share more of our time and life together, including our problems and friends and family. Love and codependency may coexist or be hard to differentiate, because codependents idealize and often happily self-sacrifice for their partner. Facing the truth would create inner conflict about our fear of emptiness and loneliness. Healthy relationships and codependent, addictive ones have very different trajectories. Lust and love and love and addiction can overlap. When we heal our codependency, we can see whether love remains. We might even leave an unhealthy relationship and still love our ex. Healing from codependency and addiction require effort and the support of a 12-step program or. There is hope and a way out. To learn more and start healing, do the exercises in my books and and ebooks and. ©Darlene Lancer 2014 Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert on relationships and codependency. Lancer has counseled individuals and couples for 28 years and coaches internationally.

We both have social strong feelings rather already and talk about building a life together. I feel like I should is it love or lust him I love him. We have been sleeping together since June. She says she wants to be with me but is having troubles leaving her husband. We have solo touches especially if we are at work. By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. It's driven by desire. For the past week we are acting like friends but I still have some emotional feelings. Am I comfortable being my true self in this tout. Your partner should bring out your best qualities and allow you to be your most authentic self. Both of you are entitled to those feelings, and they are an essential part of a happy, healthy marriage.