13 Signs That He Doesn't Love You Anymore

I want to be more of a priority in his life. I might be ready to give up and just move on.

April 27, 2015, 8:39 pm there is guy who talks to me on social networking site everyday. They will only take advantage of you by disrespecting your values. He asked me out face to face and I said yes. We ha entirely got a sex life anymore we never cuddle or anything.

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Is there a little nagging voice inside that keeps telling you that something is off? Has he stopped looking at you with loving and admiring eyes? One of my ex boyfriends I was so in love with him told me that he still loves me but not sure he wants to live with me anymore and wants to try living apart But not break up. Obviously he did not protest…because it was exactly what he wanted. Find out if he This is because he feels a lot of guilt from falling out of love. Does that make sense to you? Another related sign is checking the relationship status obsessively. In one way or another , nothing is o. My ex boyfriend not only found stupid excuses to avoid seeing me, calling me and answering my texts, but made sure I found out he was lying. He wanted me to know. He is Busy Couples in love make plans all the time. From little plans like going out tomorrow to big plans like moving in together some day, or having 2. My ex boyfriend made it even clearer than this. He told me that in the future he wants to live in a different country, but never mentioned anything about me coming with him. It was clear that he holds no place for us in his future. My ex boyfriend all of a sudden started taking his phone everywhere with him, including the bathroom. You can reverse things. More than that, you can, with the right knowledge, make your boyfriend WAKE UP and see the beautiful, smart and loving woman he has standing right in front him. By simply learning , you can easily make him fight for your relationship, obsessed and desperate to keep you in his arms, without you making any effort. Without begging, pleading and looking desperate. If he loved you once, he can love you again. How many signs have you found? Share your story with us in the comments below. Rooting for ya, Lisa my boyfriend and i are staying together at his place but dont make love anymore, last time we did was a month ago. I sometimes join his online games and message him. I need help I love him but I am getting sick of this. He says he loves me a lot but the longest conversation we have had is a hi or a nod of a hello. Please advise girls I really need the guidance on what to do. I am really worried for him and our relationship. ~ AJ The same thing happened to me but our one year anniversary is next saturday. He saw me two days ago, on easter and he made everything seem so normal and we were intimate. The next day he was avoiding my texts for hours and saying he was busy. He sent texts to my mom and sister before he even gave me the breakup text. He still wants to be friends and tells me that he misses me and wants a future with me. We hardly ever fought at all and I respected his space and i trusted him. We did have a huge fight and i asked him if he wanted a break and he said no so we were working things out. But I have a feeling that there is a future with us. Perhaps we needed a break from each other. Of course he can do whatever he likes. Truthfully, my advice to you is to talk to him about it. The way you describe him making you feel indicates an abusive dynamic. I left an abusive husband 11 months ago, and I had no idea how bad things were until I was out. We rarely do it anymore. We have been together for 7 years now. II cant take it anymore, I love him so much but he seems so distant from me lately. He NEVER wants to do ANYTHING EVER. Today he told me that if I really knew just how much I piss him off and how he never says anything. I talk about everything. I have a very busy schedule since I am a student of a very restricted college from the very beginning of my relationship with my boyfriend. I have got some family problems too. There were times when he used to deal with any sort of problems,admire me or appreciate my effort. But during last few months things changed. I think its partly my fault. I was the one who always wanted to make peace when we have fights. But he never did. I am not as much as responsible as he is. But I gave my best effort to please him. Even I lost my self-respect in the process. I can leave him because I still love him deeply and cant imagine my future without him. I hope this helps and good luck, Lisa Hi. Two days ago he told me he feels that I love him more than he loves me, and that he has doubts about his feelings for me. He told me that I felt in love earlier than him, because when we started, he was forgetting a woman he stopped seeing because she had a child a kid, with other man you know. Yesterday we conclude not to see each other for days, just to see how he feels. I think that the difference between each other is that we love each other differently: I love him more romantically, more idealistic in a way, and he loves me more prudently. Please give me your opinion. Maria, You must be in a lot of pain right now. The truth is that in my opinion, all explanations ans trying to analyze things in the beginning and later are kind of excuses. The problem is that we humans feel. I think you made the right move by insisting on some time apart, even after he asked to see you and said he was sorry. He needs a chance to miss you and realize what he stands to lose. Not for now at least. But not all hope is gone. I am now married for 8 years to a guy who broke up with me before we were married and after being no-contact for 2 months. And if not — Good for you too. I hope this helps and hang in there, everything happens for the best. Lisa Thank you so much for your advice and support. Am I so unlovable? Maria, There is absolutely nothing to be scared about. The past is exactly what it is: the past. All we have is right now. The past does NOT have any power on the present or the future. I will tell you this though: What we think is what we are. You have to put a stop to these negative thoughts right now, and switch them with positive thoughts and a lot of self love. Lisa, This is going to be VERY long so I apologize in advance for the length, but I hope you still read it and could possibly give me some advice, bc I feel as if I have no one and nowhere else to turn at this point. When we first met that fateful night, everything was telling me he was THE one, every positive emotion that I could possibly feel was surging through me and I had dated guys previously, had a child by my ex, so I had a little bit of life experience under my belt even at 19. My gut was telling me that very night that I was going to be with him for the rest of my life. While we were sitting at the table in his restaurant on our first date, I told him I would never be with another married man had dated TWO of them without prior knowledge , and the horror and shame danced across his face. I immediately said it was okay, reassured him bc he looked ill and he became very emotional and began to cry, plus he was SO open and honest about every single detail, offering it up to me without me having to ask. He remained that way for years. He also provided proof to me throughout, that they were not intimate in any way. Around our 3rd year, life took a drastic turn: he lost his mother, and then shortly after, I became an addict due to so many things which I used as excuses to keep using, and he knew nothing of it for awhile, until I began cheating on him. I screwed up tremendously, broke his heart into a million pieces, and when I finally came to my senses a few months later, I realized I needed help. He supported me, stood by me, until I relapsed and then threatened to leave rather than support me if it happened again. Well I got sober. And here we are, 9 years down the line, and the only thing I can think about is how much I miss the man I was with those first 3 years. The cheating only lasted a short time, but for a few years, he still remained the same person and was loving and caring and so very honest after I became sober. Also, he blames everything on me, quite literally, and never takes responsibility for his own actions or words. Then, this past September, I find out via Facebook that he had gotten a divorce, later learning it had been finalized for TWO whole MONTHS before I found out. It was the first time he had ever hidden something from me, lying by omission, and my heart was shattered. But, we have had sex. This is a completely different man, Lisa. A stranger to me. The EXACT OPPOSITE of the man I fell in love with. So the only thing left for me to do is WAIT…AGAIN. I adored him, fell so hard for him over and over again, but NOW? Hopefully, all of this makes sense. In this situation I would do what I would do as if I was separated, and this usually means to leave him alone. I would try the 60-day no contact rule, to give him a chance to miss you and realize what he stands to lose for good, and a chance to remember all the good times instead of focusing on your problems. He knows, obviously, that he can have you when ever he wants, because you have told him over and over. Let him have what he wants. And what he wants right now is sadly not to be with you. My Bf and I are opposites. We compromise and talk things through all the time. He admitted that he has trouble connecting with women. He definitely wants us to work and has talked about seeing a therapist since this is a trend in all his relationships. What can I do if anything? Lisa, please help me. I really need your help. My boyfriend said he dont know if he still loves me. I read the article you just sent…and if thats the case, how do i turn my situation around and make him want to meet me again? But when i asked meet where in the day time, he said nvm. I tried calling him but he hung up on me. So how do i make him want to meet me? How do i turn my situation around and make him see that he can win at my relationship with him? Lisa please help me……. He can smell it from miles away. You deserve better than this, and once you realize it — no one will be able to resist you. Hi Lisa, Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now; at the start of the relationship it was fantastic. We would always hang out, text, call; every weekend we would have date night where we would go out to a meal or movie then we would stop at either my place or his. After a few months are closeness did begin to get a bit heavy and we both recognised this and agreed to try to put some space between us. Anyway we thought that some space would resolve this issue. I have tried to talk to him about it but he says he likes the space for us to do our own things and he thinks its working; but I definitely do not think its working. I just want him to put in the same effort as he did when we first got together; he avoids texting, he rarely calls and we see each other once a week sometimes once every two weeks. Kay x Kay, I think your instincts are right: This is not really a relationship at this point. We live together, have a cat. All of our furniture has been mutually purchased, the works. We have for the most part had a very smooth relationship. He is a VERY laid back guy. It had seemed we were on the path for marriage. However, about 3 months ago, he mentioned to me that he thought he was never gonna love me as much as I love him. We kinda resolved, and I put it on the back burner. I seem to love him more and more every day. So this hurt me down to my core. Most recently he asked to break up. I cried, freaked out, we split up who was gonna get what etc. And if it ever happens I truly believe I will be losing the love of my life. I had a boyfriend that I was madly in love with. We had a great relationship — Just like yours. We also lived together. Deep down, just like you, I knew where this was going. But I refused to accept it. When school ended he decided to live with his parents until he got a job. He never invited me to come, but I came to live there anyway. I refused to take the hints. You probably know how this ended. He built up the courage to break up with me only after buying a car together — A month later. I think that your boyfriend sadly wants to end this. In my humble opinion, the only chance you have in saving this relationship is to let him have what he wants and keep your dignity. If you let him walk away while keeping your self respect and self worth, he may wake up in the near future and realize what he is missing. No matter the rough patches and obstacles in the way. Hello Lisa, I think most of people who goes through hard time need desperately someone like you to advise them and provide help so thank you. We had the moat amazing relationship you can imagine until we moved together, things started to be boring sometimes, the sexual attraction has decreased , interests started to change, he wanted to spend more time with friends, away from me, he started to love me way less than I do until he recently cheated on me , I am heartbroken and devastated. I would like to know if you think this relationship has any chances to survive, and what should I do? Dear Lisa, Please guide me. My bf and i had a really healthy relationship for 2. One day he informed me that he got a major corporate project and wpnt be available for next 2. Now what should be done… Should i move or waited for him?? This exactly how I feel its a 7+ year relationship and he dosent even notice when I purposely get made up for him or wear some lingerie. And I have been living with him for more than 1 year. In our 1st and 2nd year of relationship there are too many obstacle i. And we slowly sort it out and everything went well… For the past years that we have been living together everywhere he go i goes.. We are like glue. Until last week I went back to my hometown to visit my family for a day or two.. And now, since yesterday. I admit that I may have say something wrong but as for me it was just a small issue. So i tried to think positive. And that it was yesterday story and today is a different story. Hi ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years. We have broken up a few times over the years we have always got on so very well were bestfriends infact. Ive been reading relationship guides recently and not sure if this is just making me paranoid. When i tell him i love him and he says it back i feel he doesnt mean it anymore. I feel as tho he takes me for granted but when i tell him he just says no i dont. Ive asked several times if we are ok and he just says yes and changed the subject. Please help me and give me some advice i would like us to go back to have we used to be careless and just so in love again. If you feel he is drifting away, he probably is. The best thing to do in my opinion is to give him his space. This will give him a chance to re-value you. If he is really planning to break up with you, nothing will stop him. But if he is not, than clinging, begging etc will push him further away. He begs and pleads that I let him go. And I stubbornly refuse because I feel like I am not yet done with him. And he wants to break up with me because he is unhappy and he has made up his mind. I am tired of fighting for this, I think I put a lot of effort into the relationship and he has just stopped trying. Heather, I think that you should let him go. This is just my opinion of course. I hope this helps and good luck! And of course, because i was expecting, i get more frustrated and we started to fight again. It will be great an advice! Try to remember again that you are perfect, that you are great just the way you are and he will feel this good energy from you and give it back to you by saying he loves you without you asking for it. The more pressure you put on him, the more he will back away. He was once my boy best friend for about 1 year then he started catching feelings for me. He asked me out face to face and I said yes. But he gets really jealous when I talk to other guys and threatens to text them telling them to back off. Please tell me what this means and if he still has feelings for me. Hi I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years long distance. I did a surprise visit and found out his cheating on me with 3 other girls. It kils me to know how he has changed towards me but I decided to leave the relationship for good. Oh he says the reason he cheated was I was always angry. But for me was a way of trying to cope with the distance. Try to focus on yourself now, instead of him. And see where things are going after that. I know I love him more than he loves me. Sam, I think he is obviously afraid to commit. It seems to me that your relationship can go to another level only if you separately work on your own issues first. You are both depressed he is depressed too if he is an alcoholic , and developed a need for each other to feel better. And is it really love or just a hole you want to fill through him and him through you? Every time I ask him if something is wrong he says no everything is good. So, as hard as it may seem, I would do the opposite. I would let him be. I would take some space away from him. I have one child from a previous relationship. Everything was going well, then we argued for a while over stupid things. He seems completely done. Is he having a breakdown? But truly and deeply, without hoping that he comes back and without waiting for him. I am absolutely sure though, that everything happens for the best. Hi, Im new to this whole blog thingy, but here i go Im 28 years old i have been with my bf for almost 5 years ON an OFF all the time, we both have been using on and off also the whole relationship also, anyways i love this man i would do anything for him hes only 6 months younger then i am, but the thing is is he is sooo controlling and emotionally abusive, i have bipolar, anxiety,ptsd, and much more and to deal with him being so mean to me and controlling to me on a daily basis i just dont know what to do everyone i know that knows this situation tells me i need to leave him and stop coming back when he needs me but i dont i always give in cause im scared of what he will tell my family about what i have done in the past! And this is what you really want. And you have to tell you family about your problem. Your whole life is ahead of you and you can start over and wipe away your past today. You are not alone. Take the first right step and everything will be alright. HI, this is my first time on a blog period so I guess that shows right there how desperate I am of getting back the man I know once loved and was inlove with me , and part of me and his behavior is telling me some of the love is still there. OK let me start with why im here. Im 19 and my ex is 19 ,we where together for all of 2 years in Nov 5th when we first met , he wanted me first , I actually didnt want him off rip , but eventually i gave in and realized it was the best decision i ever made , from that point on we were soooo happy and in love , up until recently we started to stay together it was fine at first then it was constant arguing , but even then we had the mentality that through whatever we were going anywhere , up until he went to his home state we were arguing while he was gone , i ended up hanging up and not talking to him until he got back 2 days mind you i usually dont give in on arguements i keep it going until we resolve it but this time i just gave in he was telling me he didnt want to talk to me anyway so when he got back i was already prepared to talk to him about the changes i was about to take in my life like progressing but he beat me too it by saying we had to talk , that was the first thing he said when he got back , not hi or i miss you or anything. It seems to me that this his just his way to cope with the problems in your relationship. A way to run away from them to something he already knows how to handle instead of dealing with them. I hope this helps and all the best to you. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and a half and hes great to me , we always travel around , and soon moving in but everytime i ask him what he feels about me he says he likes me and likes to be with me but never says hes loves. Ive asked him why he doesnt love me and he replies with he doesnt know what love is or how it feels so he is unsure if he loves me because he doesnt feel anything. I ask him if he doesnt love me why is he with me, he says because he likes to be with me and he me with him in his future. Im pretty confused about it about his response. Hi there, This is my first time on a blog like this. This guy and I have been dating for 3 months exclusively dating only. He calls, texts, and goes out with me less and less. I asked him repeatedly many times if he was seeing or talking to someone else, or if he lost interest in me. Well, I know he just bought a house and is stressed over the new house, and graduate school as well. He also told me to be patient with him and he wants to take things slow. Alex, I usually think that our inner voice, that little voice nagging you that he is less interested, is right. If I were you I would give him the space he is asking for, and take some space yourself. Try to focus on yourself now and be even too busy to meet him. All of this of course without any anger or bad energy. Hi Lisa, I need your advise. Im with my boyfriend for 4 years now. I recently just dreamt that he cheated on me. I always trust my instinct and asked whether he is seeing someone else or talking to somebody new. But told me that our relationship has not been the best, quite rocky. It was his first time being brutally honest about our relationship, so i was shocked. He told me that this is his first time in a long term relationship so he is confused with his feeling He never pass the 3 years relationship. He felt distant with everything family, friends and me as he just started working so he is quite occupied with work at the moment. He wanted to take a time off and just needed his space. I felt that he was more distance, i thought it was just work related. I knew something was wrong but i ignored it. I was indenial, thinking that its a phase. He felt the same thing too, so we are both in a rut. All the signs above is happening… I love this guy so much. I really want to marry him. Dont want to waste my 4 years investing in the relationship just like that! I know deep down he loves me, but no longer in love with me. We dont have much money as both of us just started working so marriage will be the last thing right now. We are still talking with each other right now, just to keep the love alive. But I can sense that he already knows it, but dont want to break my heart. So he is staying in the relationship just so that we both work things out. He said he just need some space, and he will be okay in the future which i dont know when??? I feel its unfair to treat me, when he need me or to speak with me when he feels like it. I dont know what else can I do. Love never dies, relationships do, unfortunately. You have to decide whether you can handle this breakup right now or push it off to later. These are 4 years you had fun together, were friends to one another, supported one another and shared a life. I hope this helps and all the best to you. My boyfriend seems to have been distancing himself away from me. He has been ignoring my text a lot, he seems to be distancing himself away from me and I have no idea why. We have these stupid arguments and every time we have these arguments he sits here and talks about having sex with other girls and how he wants to screw the heck out of them. He hasnt said loved me for days. He says he is NEVER going to break up with me and his love as NOT changed and that he is NEVER going to cheat on me. Should I believe him or not…. I always think that actions speak louder than words. When you do, take out ego, anger and jealousy out of the equation. If you do, the right thing will come up, straight from your true inner voice. He gets upset when I say something about him hanging to much with his kids and does everything for them I mean they have jobs there in there twentys am I wrong for feeling like this? My man and I have been together almost two years. We went out for beers two or three times when he said he loved me, but this was only a few days apart not a few months. I was alarmed by the rush, but we went back to his place and became physical. He said we should get married, and I was high off finally finding a man to marry me and agreed. We filed for a certificate downtown and were going to do it Quaker style. I freaked out at the speed of everything and stopped the marriage. I actually cut it exactly where I see the problem. He wants to change you. Wanting to change someone is not love. When you love someone, you love him the way he is. You are perfect just the way you are, and the right guy will see it and be excited to marry you. We attract the person that reflects what we think about our self. I would pull away and rebuild my self worth and self esteem before I date anyone else. Anything else is a waste of time. My ex and I have been together almost 2 years now. We used to be so happy and have so much fun.. It really stressed him out and we would fight and argue and get over it the next day. He would block me for a day then he would talk to me again. We made up and he took me out but then that Saturday we went to his friends and hung out and he was all over me. Then Sunday comes and he broke up with me and blocked me, then he unblocked me again. I just want to know if theres anything I can do to help us. Jackie, Jealousy, neediness and expectation are the 3 biggest killers of relationships. He has told you the reason for him pulling away, and he is telling the truth. If you can find a way to set him free, if only in your mind, you may succeed inn getting him back. By setting him free I mean no more neediness and expectations. Hi, whenever I have a h2h talk with my bf, he seems to be avoiding it or giving me vague and short answers. This time round I had a more serious h2h talk with the mention of thinking of breaking up. And finally, for ONCE he spoke from his heart i hope. He seemed very pressured. I listed down 2 of my needs clearly and sent to him. And now I give him 2 days to sort out his feelings no communication between us for 2 days , before discussing again because I am afraid that if I continue saying things he might just go crazy. Hi my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now and we live in a small room together behind his parents house. This is his first serious relationship. We tried to be apart. I went to live with my mom. I was only there for one night and the next night he brought some of my stuff over for me and he cried. I cried and said I wanted to come home. He said it feels wrong to be apart that this room is so cold without me. We have seemed to be okay. Am I just freaking out for no reason? Do I just give him space and not 1st I love you for a while? He seems to need more time to sort out his feelings. Now you have to decide if you can relax and enjoy your relationship just as it is, or not. And more importantly, give yourself space. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years, we broke up before because I messed up with someone else but that was back in high school like 2 years ago. Holds my hand and still sleep in the same bed together. That he needs time to think and to be alone. Even though the last time this happened, he regretted everything and wanted to be with me and he missed me and all this stuff. Anne, I think you know deep down the truth. You know he is being honest with you. He wants to be alone right now. But he is afraid of being without you at the same time. Now you have to decide what you want to do about it. What do you want to do now? The answer is inside you. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year and a half now and have been in a long distance relationship. He chose to go to a college that is out of state, this was before we got together. He felt really bad for leaving, but I gave him my best wishes and told him to go to his dream school. Lisa, I need your advice. What can I do to coop with this distance? I love seeing him smile, hearing his laugh. I love being able to reach out and hug him. I love watching movies with him and curling up on the couch together. I am putting the physical part of our relationship on the backburner which is a big sacrifice to me , until the moment that we are together again. I can see a future with him if we can just make it through the years we have to spend apart we have two more years to go after fall of 2017. Thank you so much for reading this. I understand how you feel, but in your words I saw that you already know the answer. Freedom to be who he is just the way he is. But again: In order to feel good you have to work on yourself and your negative emotion. This is the truth and the only way not to ruin a LDR or any other relationship. For further tips about keeping a happy and close LDR see this post: My boyfriend an I have been together for 4 months now. We fell for each other within the 1st month. For a few weeks now hes been getting very distant. He doesnt call or text, and i dont get to see him everyday. Due to him being busy He says everythings still good between us but intentionally wont talk to me even when hes not bust. And he freaks out over the simplist things. It makes me feel really lonely. And i brought it up to him many times and ive even suggested that we take a break, but he gets mad when i talk about things like that and makes me the bad guy. We both dont know how to talk about emotions and he doesnt understand when he makes me feel bad. I just dont know where to go from here So, I have been with my fiance for one year, best friends prior for two. At the beginning he was in a rush. Asked me to marry him after four months. Now a month after our first year he tells me he is severely depressed. I asked him blatantly if he wanted to break up at first he said no but being me I asked again. I was instantly hurt. I came home furious because I felt betrayed and heart broken. I tried to give him the ring back but he wouldnt take it. The next morning I asked him straight forward if he wanted to be with me. I read most of the conversation and the tips only two apply to my situation. I told him that I would support him and give him time but on the other side my anger at this is getting larger. I love him, live him deeply. I really appreciate an answer beside listen to your heart or you already know. Should I call it out even though that breaks my heart or should I wait. Amanda, First of all, anyone who is depressed is not loving himself. Can we agree on that? Also, the same person does not know who he is. Just like he told you. The answer is no. He is telling you the truth, and you resisting it. You do not accpet it. And you call it betrayal. When he asked you to marry him in the past he meant it. Now he feels differently. Betrayal would be lying to you and telling you what you want to hear instead. Is that what you really want? Now, how you feel about this is your own choice. You can make this about you, and how bad it makes you feel, or you can appreciate that he is telling you the truth and decide what fits you in this situation. Think about it, meditate on it, and get to a decision. When you do, stick with it. Supporting him means deeply understanding his situation right now and not fighting it. Try to be in his shoes for a while. Hi, My boyfriend and i have been in a relaitionship fkr 4 yrs and i lived together with him at his house woth his 3 other older siblings for the last 2 yrs. He is the very introvert type and sensitive guy. That was in June. Usually he would ignore what i say when i am angry but this time i really hurt him. I dint know until 3 motnhs later in Aug, he was ignorig me these 3 months so i asked what happend and pushed him to the edge before i told me he was hurt from the incident in June. I tried to appologize but he dint want to hear it,so the whole of september we ignored each other. He also told me to move out. I tried to appologuE for 3 days but he dint want to listen, so in the end i told him i would move out in end of Oct and he accepted. In Oct, his mood started to be ok, and he do ask me to go dinner with him in Sept he went himself without asking me. Buy 20 Oct, i found a room and told him i would move out. He hugged me after i asked for it and said if u dont want to move out then no need to. Please give me your answer. After this i told him since i force him to answer i need to respect it, i will move out in Dec. So the next few weeks he ignored me. After Nov 12, his brothers wedding , he started to ask me if i wanted to have lunch or dinner with him. On my birthday, he even bought me a present but did not wish me a Happy Birthday he never wished me before anyway. But when i checked his whatsapp with his Mum, when she asked him if we were both back on good terms, he answered No, she is findiing a house to move. So is he now treating me like a little sister that he is responsible for since i stay at his house, or does he still have feeling for me and is trying to fix it but wont show affection because of his ego? Josy, Sadly I think he wants to break up. At least for now. I believe him that you deserve someone else, especially if he says it. Not a better man, just a different one. No one knows what the future brings but this is the situation right now. Do you want to still live with someone who wants you out? It hard to believe he is going to leave me if his actions shows different what do you think My ex and i broke up 2 days ago because he was distant and said he doesnt love me anymore like he used to and when i asked him if he does have any love for me he said no. The problem here is, im head over heels in love with him and we have a 2 month old little boy. He seems to not really care about us and is just having fun not being in a relationship supposedly. Im just not sure what to do. It hurts me so much to be away but i see i have no effect on him. Can i also mention this is long distance because of schooling. I just dont know what to do. Should i ask for him back for the sake of our child and my feelings or should i let him wild it up in the single life he seems so happy with. Natalie, To tell you the truth, if I were you I would let him be. Let him have his freedom for a while and see if he decides to come back on his own. When we try, we push them away even further. Hopefully that includes his child. Hey, So me and my botfriend have been together for 3 years.. I can honestly say that before i met him the thought of marriage kids and living with a male made me feel sick and i never wanted any of that! But since we got together it all changed! I want it all with him! But… Recently hes been distant! He no longer seems interested in me, only ever cuddles,kisses or has sex with me when hes had an alcoholic drink and never compliments me or sends me nice messages or says or does anything slightly romantic.. This is not like him at all.. What do you think? Something external to your relationship is going on with him and he is not telling you about it for some reason. Try to work on your self esteem and keep confident through this, give him his time. I hope this helps and good luck! He works mon — sat from 8am until 10pm hours vary. His only day off is Sunday how can I make this relationship work, if he sometimes wants to be at home with his family? Is this selfish of me that I want to see him all the time. Right now this is what you have, neaning this is all the time you have to see each other. Everything is going great for you now and your relationship is good. Try not hurt it by slamming in the wall over and over again. I desperately need some advice. We met a few years ago when I had a boyfriend. We talked and flirted a little but that was the extent because of my relationship. As soon as that relationship ended we hooked up and started hanging out. I came home to see him on my break from school and we spent a whole week together and one night he told me he loved me. I invited him to move in with me where I was going to school, states away. Our sex life is great. We do love each other but we have been fighting constantly. I recently found out I was pregnant. When we fight we talk about breaking up in the heat of it, but you can tell he doesnt want to do, or be the one to do it anyway. Pressure will make him run away. I hope this helps and congratulations! I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 yrs off and on. We live together and he also has a freeloader friend who lives here that he spends all his time with and communicates with more than me. He has been gambling and drinking since his friend has lived here. I told him off because I was hurt from his behavior. I apologize to him for my words he just ignored me. And he has been sleeping on the couch. None of this should be taken personally by you. It has nothing to do with you. He is not mentally well right now. Can you accept him the way he is? Do you have patience to wait until he is better? Can you focus on the good in him? If the answers are yes than stay with him, without asking questions r demanding anything. I hope this helps. Hi I was friends with my boyfriend for a year but I always really liked him. We went to the same place undergrad and started talking this summer when I would come back to visit. He officially asked me out in September and we decided to try long distance. We would see each other 1-3 times a month and communicate everyday. He was always super kind to me. He is in the navy and was supposed to move farther away for school in January. In December he started being even more flirty, sending pictures, and making plans for the night in the hotel room NYE. I thought we were forming an even deeper question. I would tell him how much I like him and he would respond saying the same thing. I was going to tell him I love him NYE. A couple of days before he started acting strange. He said it was all a lie and he just liked the emotional high from making out. How do I get him to want me back or what do I do? He claims that he only sees her as a friend now but i just want her out of his life period. Since he knows I wont like it, he goes to visit her behind my back. At one point I tried to befriend her but with little luck. They continue their private friendship. I am fairly certain she does not want a relationship with him but only the favors she gets him to do like lend her money. I would welcome any advice. This has gone on for 7 years. No one likes to be told what to do. These are the only two choices, as I see it. Not easy, but possible. So I could really use some help with my situation. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years. As soon as I met him I thought he was my one. Well as few months in he got into it with his family and moved in with my family and my mom welcomed him on because he was always great to me. He makes me feel terrible for starting the fight. I saw him flirting with a few girls on his phone and said something. He made me few terrible each time and I would always think after that I had a right to be mad! We would talk about marriage before and now he HATES when I even ask about it. Not my birthday or even when we had our anniversary. What should I do? Me and my fiance have been together for 3 years and at first we were Inseparable we did things together all the time. We would just go out riding just for a date. What do I so? So my boyfriend now ex and I live together. Well on Friday, we got into this huge argument. I wanted to have a date night but his female friend said she needed to talk to him. So he went to her.. And like any woman, I was angry. I was hurt because I felt like he was choosing her over me. I said some very awful things about his friend. And accused him of cheating on me. But a few months into our relationship he lied to me about a friend. Told me she was gay and that she had a girlfriend. I found out that none of that was the case and they had actually been romantically involved. So I do have a hard time with trusting him. Well, Friday night, after the argument, he finally came home. And he broke up with me. I know and understand that I messed up. You just know when someone loves you. The way they look at you and hold you. He would text me randomly telling me he loved me almost everyday while at work. What can I do to try to get him to open up to me and work things out? Emily, I think that talking to him will not do much good. Of course he does. But he IS confused and he needs time without you to figure things out. I would let him have this time and try to focus on yourself instead. To violate their trust. And when they do, we are so surprised that our expectation has realized, has manifested. If you ever want to have a happy relationship with anyone, this is the issue to take care of first. You have to put your past behind you. Unless you expect him to, that is. Do you see what I mean? I hope this helps and I wish you all the best. He used to start conversations and talk to me and make so many plans with me. He has no more time talking and shuts me out. I think I know what this means but I am just way to scarred to face the truth. What should I do? What do you think this means? I dated a guy 5 years ago and everything was fine for 2years till distance separated us and communication between us came at a standstill. He claimed he waited for me while I thought he stylishly broke up with me and well I moved on. Now just last year,we started talking again and because I still had feelings for him and we were both single we decided to give it another shot. Though we still live in different ststes, I was willing to make it work this time around. At first i was ok but now knowing her staying is indefinite is getting me upset and angry. I love him but I still want her out of his house. Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years now.. Pretty much every day. I think I still love him, I know that it would hurt so bad to lose him. But I hate feeling this way all the time. You have to take the focus off the outside of you meaning him and focus on the inside of you. My Boyfriend and I were together for 2. He said he wanted space and would never confirm we were over but stopped answering my calls and texts. I blocked him to move past the pain because I kept reaching out for several weeks. My ex and I had been together for 2 years, and there is 10 years between us; me being 24 and him 34. Although this was the right decision, it was by no means an easy one for either of us. For example, kick off at me for asking him to switch off my wiper blades before going through a car wash. This example is the most recent occasion which eventually ended the relationship by him. I did not respond to this as I wanted to cool down and not snap at him. From later texing him to say I was home and had left as soon as he told me to, he ignored me for 2 weeks. He said he wanted me to take them and to be quick about it. I think 2 weeks worth of emotions came out. All the while he was sat away from me and couldnt really look at me. But I know from seeing him in other situations such as work and driving etc he is very short tempered, work colleagues also say that he is hard work, snappy, argumentative etc and even confirmed he was like this before we met. I know that his parents selling the family home and moving abroad really upsets him, as he is an only child and feels abandoned by them. He also doesnt have a great relationship with his Dad. So I strongly believe there are many factors rolled into one. Following on from that Sunday, I asked him would he see how he feels in a month after having some space from me and the situation. I agreed to this, as I love him deeply and knows he does me — I know that a lot of his anger and frustration is not caused by me but is aimed by me. He has admitted that, and said he can be very horrible to me. I just wanted to ask your opinion on this, and whether I did the right thing in asking him to review things in a month or so after having some time completely to himself? Do you think there could still be hope for us? An outsiders view would be very appreciated. Thank you, Angela Hi Lisa, Thank you for your reply and for the link. I am hoping this month apart can really resolve things, allowing us both to hopefully start afresh with a clean slate together. Do you think this is possible? Angela But from your experience and having seen many a situation on here, is it realistic for a couple to return after a month of zero contact? Or i this just his way of getting out without a fuss or a fight from me? Do guys who call for a break or whatever actually miss the other person? I have not contacted him, so he has no reason to be mad at me for bombarding him or not respecting this time. I just want to know if complete time away can resolve this and allow people to start afresh? Aleesha, When we fall in love, we see only the best things in each other. But when time goes by, we start depending on our spouse to be able to be happy. We expect them to behave in a certain way so we can feel happy and satisfied. Not for long anyway, and no matter how much love we have. I suspect this has happened with the two of you as well. He wants to feel independent and free — and so do you, whether you know it or not. I think this is probably not the best time to bring up marriage. Not until you get your balance and good mood back both of you. If I were you I would try to reduce my expectations to nothing. To be happy no matter how he acts and what he does, at least for a little while. It will empower you, remind of your self worth, and will free him from any burden of being responsible for your happiness. If you give it a try, the change in his behavior in response to yours will be evident in no time. I hope this helps and good luck! Hey, This is Ash. We began dating 7months ago. My boyfriend recently just broke up. Initially in the relationship we were very strong. We loved and cared about each other. He would amke me food at 4am in the morning. During our finals week I was sick. He took care of me like my father would. There were times he said he wanted to marry me right away. I hadnt moved in. But I would spend my nights there. We would study together, eat togtehr , sleep toegther. He would say I want to stuy, I have work. I accpet I overreacted. I was so use to him being my side always, I did not like it. We would ahve fights because of that. But he still stuck by me. We would ahve our moments here and there. But we were strong. I knew he loved me and I knew I loved him dearly. Last month, I left to home for summer. Before going off to summer we had a lot of fights. I said pretty bad stuff to me and vice versa. He said he loves me but he wants to go on a break. I yelled at him. Just when I thought we were done for good. I did all kinds of things to keep him close. He texted me few days becak he does not feel the same anymore. He says does not feel excited to text me or make me feel special becasue hurt his ego very bad. But I want him back in my life. What we shared for those seven months was real and special. I dont want him to stay as a memory. What do i do? Please read your question again and see in every line what went wrong, and how next time you can do things differently. I think you know exactly what went wrong, and when you do — you have power now. You can not repeat the same things that hurt your relationship again. My boy friend has never told me that he loves me i was the one to tell him that and he always says i love you too but i can see no prouve for that. I am verry positive so far and am dealing well with my life without him but inside i am kinda scared of loosing him. Hi Lisa, My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. We started out great, really happy and loving. We would do things together and laugh together. We even planned to move in together and talked about marriage eventually. He has agreeded to try and work at it and see if he can feel the same way again. He has been depressed lately after finding out his mum has cancer could that be the cause? Or am I just trying to fix something that will never be anything more. The secret is to focus on having fun, and only having fun. It will allow him to work on his issues same with you — and when the stress goes away you can get back to the happy couple you used to be. This is the problem with the world, we tell women to put up with this type of rubbish which means men think that they can treat us this way. Of course it hurts but you will ALWAYS get over it in the end and move on. My boyfriend of 2. He ignored me twice so then i stopped texting for 2+ weeks then reached out again and we texted for over an hour. So for a week, he was the one reaching out to me to set up a time to meet up. When we met, he was very formal and distant. He asked if i wanted a hug and he made it pretty short. I gave him some letters that i wrote for him saying that i really do love him and respect him. He texted me he was sorry he couldnt meet with me before I went back. Should I do NC again? I really do want him in my life. I met him last year on internet using my fake account and he too as well. He confess that he was using a fake account too,so he decided to add me in my real account. We talk everyday until he said if he had a chance. So after that I said yes, a month ago. I just feel like he was always there for me. We shared a lot of things even our personal lives. I maybe did a lot of annoying things but he never give up on me. He said,he loves me very much that he wanna marry me someday. Actually were in a ldr ,and he tells me I have to wait 5 years or more. He always showed that he really loves me everyday. He always said he was so busy and was tired so he had no more time to talk to me. And I feel like he is hiding something from me. I always pleased and ask about it in a calm manner but he just say nothing. Every time I talk about it he became mad and ask why I keep on asking. He never say I love you anymore. I tell him everything that annoys and bothered me. Please I need advice. I have been in relationship for more than 4 years… Everything was good before three months… He changed his job 4 months before… Now his schedule is very busy he comes late at home at 10 pm… He is frustrated by his job a lot… And he has started loosing interest in me… His priorities are his friends now… He. We have recently came back from holiday and we got along really well but after we came back he kinda ignores me. We used to text each other a lot and talk about everything. Past few days he barely messages me. I am The one who starts conversation. I know after holiday he must be busy at work and wants to catch with friends. But he has time for instagram but not to reply my text? What had changed in few days? Thank you Hello, I need some advice or help actually.. He sticked with me for the first 6 months. However after that, he spent most of his time playing games with his friends. And when he is with his friends, he refused to text me. We argue almost twice a week. Sometimes, he tells me he loves me. But sometimes he said he is unsure. I have been dating my boyfriend for sometime now. We live together but recently he called me and told me to get my place cos we need sometime for ourselves. He seems to ignore my questions. Does he still love me? My boyfriend of 5 months has recently decided that we needed to break up. For the rest of the week he had apologized for breaking my heart and was putting effort into the relationship. After that night everything was amazing. We seemed to be back on tract. This past Sunday I was there again were he told me that he loved me multiple times and how happy he was. However last night I noticed he was acting strange again. We eventually decided after talking via phone call that we needed to just break up and not take a break. He keeps telling me he is sorry and that it was hard for him to end things and he was hurting. Today he mentioned that he did love me once and believes there is still a part of him that does he just needs space to figure out what he wants. He has reached out to me multiple times today and we have talked about what had happen. Is there a chance that he does love me and will eventually come back or should I move on? This is something he said because he was angry at something. Of course he does, but he said this out of anger. As for him telling stuff to someone else — why do you care? I think that you should think about things when you are calm and relaxed and only then make decisions. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months. The next month was really stressful, he was moving house, we were saving to go on holiday in December and work for both of us piled up and I guess communication faltered. NYE I told him for the first time I loved him and he responded that he really liked me. He gave me a key to his house and has said he wants me to be involved in decisions in his new house. Thank you Hi Lisa, ok my situation is out of normal and is confusing. I am with this guy who never expresses his feelings. He says he likes me but does not love me it is the farest he will go and for most of time he is cold. It seems simple right? However what puzzles me is that when together he takes care of me, even the way he touches me is super sweet and when he speaks about the future like situations that will happen in 3 4 years he includes me on them…. I am confused…Cant understand this situation…Any ideas about what is really going on? My boyfriend now ex and I lived together and had been together for a little over a year. He started a job 4 hours away and was gone 2 weeks and home 1 week. The pulling away from me started when the job started. But I still thought we were happy, just thought he was going through an adjustment. We were happier than ever so I thought. We were still happy. I also started a new job where I work I had to work 4 nights and was only home 3 nights when he was home. WE decided to try to find a bigger place to live in my hometown so that I could be closer to family and not alone when he was out of town working and we found a place. I moved everything while he was working. I have been in a 3 year relationship and we both have children. Everything was great and we moved in together and then it all went downhill. His child became clingy and very disrespectful towards me but he does nothing about it. If I even mention anything about it I am the one the is blamed. How do you handle this? Hi, so I need help, please. I talked to him but he says its because he is busy and that he is not ignoring me. What should I do? My bf and I have been together for about 11 months. I told him I loved him at around the 6 month mark. We have stayed connected and talk and text each other everyday. He came home to visit me over spring break. Again I told him I loved him. I got really sad. He kissed me again and told me he loved me and i told him i loved him too. We kissed etc and all was well. Fast forward to today. My bf has been really depressed and struggling while back abroad. I comfort him and tell him I love him but he never says I love you back. I asked him why. And he said he cares about me a lot. We have a pretty good relationship. That is serious commitment to me. He also seems to genuinely care about me. I guess my question is…. Is it with sticking around for or should I run before I get hurt? Responses from anyone is appreciated. Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it, Hes not really missing you if hes ignoring you. I would give him some ultimatums or call it a day take control of the situation instead of wondering its not fair you have feelings too. Long distant relationships can be hard for anyone but it works both ways. What should I do?

Rip that rug out from under him and get under someone social. I was already nervous about even being in high school, but seeing her almost instantly magnified my nerves. This is the moment when you must realize that the love in your relationship has been taken down a notch. How can a guy give so much but not give anything. Men who are met on having sex with you will tell you how great your hair looks or hot your ass looks in that dress. But how do you now you really want me. While it's great when someone appreciates your appearance and how terrific you look, you want to be met and adored for your inner qualities, too. Which I find hilarious. He did intoduce me to his family, he actually took me out of state to meet his parents. I am like ahh no.