How to Recognize a Player So You Don’t Get Played

Many women will reject this and in those cases you go on a date as a last resort. Instead you spot several boxes of baking soda around his kitchen and bathroom, that you cannot quite figure out what he uses for. And that he thinks it can take a long time to ease her into a relationship. Most players are looking for a fix for their fragile ego.

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Don’t Fall For The Game! 14 Ways to Spot A Player Right Off The Bat - I have learned now to keep my eyes more than open. It should be noted that being guarded isn't the same as being dishonest.

Watch out for over-confidence. Healthy self-confidence is great, but there's a difference between being confident and being cocky. If you think this guy seems a little too confident in his efforts to win you over, it could be because he's had plenty of practice. A confident guy isn't necessarily a player, but if he doesn't break a sweat while asking you out or seems rather aloof about the whole deal, he might not be that serious about you. Calculate the age gap. If the man is old enough to be your father, it could be a bad sign. Older players who are set in their ways frequently target younger, less experienced women who are easier to trick. There are plenty of young players out in the world, too. Glance at the phone. When he's texting someone, lean in his direction and peek at his phone. You don't even need to see the screen; in fact, you'll learn more by keeping your eyes on him. If the guy's a player, he'll probably yank his phone away faster than you can blink. Many people view that as an invasion of privacy, and even guys who aren't players might get upset at the breach of trust. You usually won't need his text or call history as evidence, anyway, since being overprotective of his phone is a bad enough sign on its own. Pay attention to the places he frequents when you're not around. If he still visits the same spots he went to when he was single and picking up women, there's a good chance that he's still in the habit of charming the ladies there. A healthier way to find out where he's going is ask around and find out who might've seen him and where he was when it happened. You could also try visiting the spot you met him on an evening he might be there. Honest compliments are sweet, but you probably shouldn't trust someone who's quick to flatter you to an excessive degree. If they're general, overused compliments that could apply to nearly any woman—beautiful hair, gorgeous smile, etc. You should also be cautious around men who specifically compliment your insecurities. Players are also liars. Catching him in the middle of a lie can be difficult, but when you do, you shouldn't shrug it off. This is especially true if he's lied to you more than once. Players will generally try to laugh it off and change the topic. When that doesn't work, they may admit to the truth but somehow blame you for their lie. Consider the player's life story. Most players are egotistical, so they'll start talking about themselves before you even have the chance to ask. If a guy hasn't shared much about his own life, though, ask him about it and watch for inconsistencies. If his life story seems scripted and too good to be true, it probably is. If some of the details don't match up, it could be an indication that he's lying about who he is. Share your own story. Since most players are overly concerned with themselves, they don't have much time to be concerned with other people. A guy who is genuinely interested in you will want to know about your life and your passions, but a player won't take the time to find out. Bring up things you've talked about in past conversations. It's probably fine if he occasionally forgets about small details, but it's usually a bad sign if he makes a habit of forgetting. Talk about past relationships. Ask about his past relationships and talk about yours. These conversations provide the player with opportunities to manipulate your feelings. By knowing what makes you insecure, he can figure out how to work that to his advantage. A quick mention of past hurts may not be bad, but if he plays it up to evoke pity from you, it may be another manipulation tactic. Value your own time. Pay attention to how the guy asks you out and how he responds when you invite him. Good guys will value your time, but a player won't. A man who frequently cancels last-minute might do so for similar reasons. Players are inconsistent in their affections and may sway from one extreme to the other. You may not hear from him in weeks, and then suddenly, he'll start bombarding you with more attention than you can handle. As a result, he returns to you in an effort to fill the void. Change up your meeting place. If the two of you always meet at night, try asking him for a daytime date. Most players will strongly resist and reject the idea, and the excuses they give for doing so are usually pretty lame. Instead of spending time alone or going out for drinks, go somewhere with plenty of people and very little alcohol. The guy's odds of getting you into bed will decrease when you do this, so if he's a player, he won't be willing to make the change. Try to maintain eye contact when you're together in a public venue. Your eyes don't need to be locked the entire time, but his eyes should be directed your way for most of the date. Similarly, a wandering eye that remains stuck on another woman is also a bad sign. If you're in a relationship with a player, you're probably not the only woman he's seeing. Making your relationship public will make it easier for his lies to be exposed to both you and the other women, and for that reason, he'll usually reject the idea of being public about it. If he refuses to treat you with any special affection or treats you just as affectionately as other women, it might be his way of keeping your relationship a secret. To that end, he might also avoid spending time with you in certain places if he thinks there's a better chance of being caught there. Get to know the friends. Try to spend time with his friends. Most players won't want you anywhere near their friends, and it won't be because they're afraid of another man stealing you away. Some players will drop their guard and show their true colors when they're hanging around their buddies. Introduce your own family and friends. Invite him to meet your friends and family. Since a player isn't serious about you, he will usually refuse such offers or make excuses to get out of them at the last minute. A player who agrees to meet your loved ones would have to take the risk of being discovered by someone like that. Ask around about the guy and find out if there are any rumors about him. People in his own social circle might cover for him, but anyone who isn't attached to him won't have a need to do so. They probably have a few connections you don't have, and one of those connections might have helpful information. Some exes will intentionally paint a bad picture as an act of revenge. Watch how others are treated. Players lack respect for you, but that's because they lack respect for everyone. It can be difficult to tell when a guy is disrespecting you, but it'll probably be easier to detect disrespect he shows toward others. Even disrespect he shows toward female relatives can indicate an overall sense of disrespect toward women in general. Players may relish in the authority they have over these staff members. To spot a player, watch out for people who are a little too arrogant and cocky when they ask you out, which could be a sign that they're not serious about you. Also, be wary if they excessively flatter you and gives you lots of generic compliments, which might mean they're insincere and just trying to quickly win you over. If you feel like they only talk about themselves and they're not really interested in your life or your passions, you might want to steer clear since they're probably just playing you.

So when a girl is deeply attracted to a guy, she usually ignores her intuition. Your forget Women are driven by unrealistic fantasy expectations, hence horoscopes, paranormal, spirit guides, crystals etc. We spoke openly and transparently about what we learned from our past relationships. File at your favorite place between work meetings. They use sex as a means of adventure, and achievement, without ever connecting with their partner at any emotional level. A player runs the other way. Figueroa goes on to note that flirting doesn't necessarily mean he is a for, so don't overreact if he's giving friendly attention to other women. This is especially true if he's lied to you more than once. She was approached by a player and I recognized it.