Five Keys to a Successful Marriage

Remember that criticism and nagging destroy love. The elders were as clear about this possibility as can be: Forget about it. They can also be ours, now. If your spouse speaks to you in ways that cause you pain, choose outcome wording, Lets speak to each other in ways that are mutually respectful.

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Five Keys to a Successful Marriage - We'll intellectually agree to work together, but I'll still reserve my personal escape route in case things don't work out right. GIVE EACH OTHER ROOM FOR INDIVIDUAL GROWTH Each partner will have personal likes and dislikes.

So what makes a marriage successful? Is it the absence of hard times? I think those ideas of happy marriages are a bit Hollywood, if you know what I mean. Here are three key features of the most successful marriages I have ever seen or, frankly, been a part of. Maybe you have it now and hope it will last forever, and maybe it will. A recognition of each other that surpasses that of any other human we have known. It is a space between us that is sacred to each other, that is cherished and treasured and trusted. It is the deepest knowing we will experience, and it is not static, but continues to grow as the relationship continues to deepen. What is destructive in many marriages is our tendency to use this intimate knowledge of our partner to hurt them, to gain power over them, or to neglect their needs. In successful marriages, this intimate knowledge of each other is never neglected, abused, or taken for granted. It is treated in such a way that partners continue to trust each other with more and more of themselves because it is evident that what we share is held with love and respect. Without the depth of emotional intimacy, relationships do not have the strong roots and foundation to survive the storms and sometimes the droughts that are a natural part of life. Besides, there are few feelings as crazy-good as deeply knowing and deeply loving. Number Two: Emotional Honesty This one seems like a no-brainer, and while I do also mean the nuts and bolts, day to day kind of honesty, what I am talking about here in relation to successful marriages is a different level of honesty. Yes, it is important to be honest about what you do and what you think, but it is even more important, and often more difficult, to be honest about what you are feeling. Emotional honesty is how we build emotional intimacy. Emotional honesty is how we reveal to our partners our innermost feelings, fears, hopes and dreams. Emotional honesty is hard. And yes, it also leaves us more vulnerable. This is the trade off; being emotionally honest does make us vulnerable to our partner. It gives them very important information about us, and it requires trust to be able to open up in that way. And in turn, they will offer their own deepest feelings. And the intimacy grows. Number Three: Respect, Respect, Respect Emotional honesty allows us to develop emotional intimacy, and mutual respect allows us the ability to be honest with each other. I have never in my career witnessed a successful marriage in which one partner, or both, did not treat each other with respect. It is an essential ingredient to a truly happy marriage. How many of us have seen people speaking to their loved one in a rude, sarcastic and uncivil manner, and then answer to door to a total stranger and be kind and civil? Respect recognizes that our partner has choice in where and with whom they spend their time, and treats the other person in a manner that invites them to want to be there. Respect cares and supports the needs and wants of the other person. Without respect, there is little possibility of emotional honesty or emotional intimacy. Without respect, a marriage will either fail, or persist in a state of neglect or even emotional or verbal abuse. Successful marriages are the ones we often see later in life because they have survived. They are the elderly couple walking in the park hand in hand. They are the ones who, after years of journeying through life, still take time to talk and laugh together. They can also be ours, now. These features of successful marriages are simply choices we make, every day, about how we will treat our most important relationship. If you are experiencing issues that may become unmanageable for you and may strain your married life, there is help. Contact the intake department at Maria Droste Counseling Center at 303-867-4600 or to speak to someone about in Denver.

We live a life of regrets once out of our marriage, we live a life of comparison and once done, it is very easy to repeat the same for there is nothing to difference!!!!!. As a relationship is moving into a serious phase, a question couples can and should discuss is: If we weren't in love, would be friends. The duty of all in-laws is to leave the decisions made in the newly established home strictly alone. Wise couples have civil that you have to approach problems differently to get different results. In order towe must be happy first. My keys to successful marriage to both sexes is: Go back into the ring and duke it out. At that point, his mind went blank.