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When you fall in love its the greatest feeling ever... Although Houston did not intend to contribute to the , when Whitaker hired to score the soundtrack, she opted in. And while each end to a relationship is unique to be sure, a breakup and a lost life are drastically different experiences , one feeling is common:.

It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. Sorry for the late reply — I guess I missed out this one though am glad I saw it now.

Why Love Literally Hurts - So, do talk and let me know how it went. December 17, 2016 My husband and I have been married for 7 years recently his oldest daughter 17 going to live with us.

Most of us see the connection between social and physical pain as a figurative one. At the same time, life often presents a compelling argument that the two types of pain share a common source. A few years ago a group of doctors at Johns Hopkins University reported a rare but lethal heart condition caused by acute emotional distress. Behavioral science is catching up with the anecdotes, too. In the past few years, psychology researchers have found a good deal of literal truth embedded in the metaphorical phrases comparing love to pain. Neuroimaging studies have shown that brain regions involved in processing physical pain overlap considerably with those tied to social anguish. The connection is so strong that traditional bodily painkillers seem capable of relieving our emotional wounds. Love may actually hurt, like hurt hurt, after all. A Neural Couple Hints of a neural tie between social and physical pain emerged, quite unexpectedly, in the late 1970s. APS Fellow Jaak Panksepp, an animal researcher, was studying social attachment in puppies. The infant dogs cried when they were separated from their mothers, but these distress calls were much less intense in those that had been given a low dose of morphine, Panksepp reported in Biological Psychiatry. The concept was hard to test in people, however, until the rise of neuroimaging decades later. A breakthrough occurred in an fMRI study led by APS Fellow Naomi Eisenberger of University of California, Los Angeles. The researchers knew which areas of the brain became active during physical pain: the anterior cingulate cortex ACC , which serves as an alarm for distress, and the right ventral prefrontal cortex RVPFC , which regulates it. They decided to induce social pain in test participants to see how those areas responded. Eisenberger and colleagues fed participants into a brain imaging machine and hooked them into a game called Cyberball — essentially a game of virtual catch. Participants were under the impression that two other people would be playing as well. In actuality, the other players were computer presets controlled by the researchers. They watched as the other two players tossed the virtual ball, but were told that technical difficulties had prevented them from joining the fun. In these cases, the computer players included the participant for seven tosses, then kept the ball away for the next 45 throws. The brain might have recognized this exclusion as accidental, and therefore not painful enough to merit corrective measures. During explicit social exclusion, however, both ACC and RVPFC activity increased in participants. The study inspired a new line of research on neural similarities between social and physical pain. In a review of studies conducted since this seminal work, published in the February 2012 issue of Current Directions in Psychological Science, Eisenberger offered a potential evolutionary reason for the relationship. Early humans needed social bonds to survive: things like acquiring food, eluding predators, and nursing offspring are all easier done in partnership with others. Maybe over time this social alert system piggybacked onto the physical pain system so people could recognize social distress and quickly correct it. There is the sensory component, which gives basic information about the damage, such as its intensity and location. As a result, researchers began to think that while the qualitative aspects of social and physical pain might overlap, the sensory components might not. Recently that thinking has changed. Kross and colleagues brought test participants into a brain imaging machine and had them complete two multi-part tasks. One was a social task: Participants viewed pictures of the former romantic partner while thinking about the breakup, then viewed pictures of a good friend. The other was a physical task: Participants felt a very hot stimulation on their forearm, and also felt another that was just warm. But activity in areas linked with physical pain, such as the somatosensory cortex and the dorsal posterior insula, also increased during these tasks. The results suggested that social and physical pain have more in common than merely causing distress — they share sensory brain regions too. As other research suggests, social pain may actually be much worse in the long run. A kick to the groin might feel just as bad as a breakup in the moment, but while the physical aching goes away, the memory of lost love can linger forever. A research group led by Zhansheng Chen at Purdue University recently demonstrated this difference in a series of experiments. During two self-reports, people recalled more details of a past betrayal than a past physical injury and also felt more pain in the present, even though both events had been equally painful when they first occurred. During two cognitive tests, people performed a tough word association task significantly more slowly when recalling emotional pain than when recalling physical pain. Heart-Shaped Box of Tylenol There is a bright side to the new line of research linking social and physical pain: Remedies for one may well double as therapy for the other. A group of psychological researchers, led by C. Nathan DeWall of the University of Kentucky, recently tested whether acetaminophen — the main ingredient in Tylenol — could relieve the pain of emotional distress as effectively as it relieves bodily aches. In one experiment, some test participants took a 500-mg dose of acetaminophen twice a day for three weeks, while others took a placebo. After Day 9, people who took the pain pill reported significantly lower levels of hurt feelings than those who took a placebo. As a follow-up study, DeWall and colleagues gave either acetaminophen or a placebo to 25 test participants for three weeks, then brought them into the lab to play Cyberball. When participants were excluded from the game, those in the acetaminophen group showed significantly lower activity in their ACC than those in the placebo group — a sign that the painkiller was relieving social pain just as it normally did physical pain. Half of the stimulations were given at the threshold pain level, half were given one degree Celsius higher. Meanwhile the woman took part in a series of tasks to measure which had a mitigating effect on the pain. In the end, contact involving a romantic partner — both direct and visual alike — led to significantly lower pain ratings compared to the other tasks. At least for all the hurt love causes, it has an equally powerful ability to heal. I was abandoned as a baby, and was adopted by a very sick person…. Now I have very severe physical pain. Mostly burning nerve pain. There was no love at all, only beatings…tried to take my life at 12. It is interesting that I have made a good life for myself, and now I have to deal with this debilitating pain. There is a direct correlation! I was sexually abused at 11. The man hit me in my left arm after I refused to look at him play with himself. At age 49 I went through a heart breaking experience involving my spouse and son, and every time I felt anxious or nervous, my left arm would start hurting. It got so bad I could not move my arm after a very bad emotional night. September 17, 2014 One year ago ex dumped me after 4 years together, my grandma died last year and my lovely dog girl I was so attached to, my only friend, this year. My son suffers from deep schizophrenia and is in hospital now. My financial situation is crap. How much more can you take? Recently I was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder. November 23, 2014 I was adopted from Russia when I was 2 years old. I live in Iowa a d I keep thinking about her. My heart aches not knowing wether she loved me or not. March 6, 2015 the first line is only wrong. I HAVE EXPERIENCED IN MY FRST TRUE LOVE. IT JUST FEEKS AS IF THE PAIN IN UR CHEST OR HEART WILL KILL U. U CRY ALL THE TIME. U CANT IMAGINE LIFE WITHOUT HIMOR HER. IT JUST PHYSICALLY PAIN. When you had been betrayed by a partner the betrayer and the betrayed are both hurting.. Its one of the most painful things to deal with when people fall out of love.. Crying is not a sign of weakness. Only you know you.. It takes someone who has walked down a similar broken path to understand. True, only you can know yourself. I watched her die twice: once on our couch as the paramedics worked on her and then when they removed life support. I am still overwhelmed with the pain of losing her. My head aches and my chest hurts every time I think of her. My blood pressure is through the roof. We were both disabled veterans and there are times I wonder if their lack of care for her pushed her over. Counselors have been no help whatsoever. All I know is I hurt so much and I wish she were here, June 5, 2015 it makes me sick to think about these researchers torturing poor animals for the sake of this stupid study. I lost my mother three years ago she was only 42 and i still think about her every day. The only thing i believe is she had 3 different liver diseases none of which born of alchohol abuse, she never drank and each disease a great pain on its own. I hope you have found peace after your loss. My husband died just a few days after you posted your comment 2016. I wanted to die as well, if no other reason than to stop the very physical pain. It has almost been 2 years and I can honestly say it does get better. I knew my husband would not want me to be miserable and give up a life he was denied so I set out to be happy, for him. I still have sad moments thinking of what could have been but the pain is gone and life goes on. July 20, 2016 It comes as no surprise to me that science had findings connecting loss and physical pain. I have been running from emotional wounds surrounding abandonment all my life, as well as addictive behavior. I first became hooked on opiates in my early twenties. I always felt I was stuffing my emotions. July 20, 2016 I dont understand what all these strange studies trying to proove…whatever, they r not going to lessen the pain anyway. Its there to stay…no one can help me and i cannt live with this distress for all life…hurting n feeling robbed of all my emotions and feelings. This god thing and his plan…i simply dont agree with. December 17, 2016 My husband and I have been married for 7 years recently his oldest daughter 17 going to live with us. My husband has severe PTSD and has had a couple of brain injuries from being deployed overseas. I hate how this feels. My heart and my soul feel literally broken March 11, 2017 Stay strong. No one deserves any kind of abuse no matter what someone went through. It feels like hell now but in time it will get better. But you have to stay away and start anew. Just keep moving little steps each day. I felt pain in my chest and stomach every day for at least 2 years and now that we are broken up I still feel it. April 14, 2017 That must be really hard for you because raising a child up on your own must really be stressful but just stay strong and give the best to your child. Also know that people change throughout their lives and you can never live a perfect live. I hope everything will become easier for you. August 13, 2017 Im so in love with a younger man 15 years my junior but we are so in love. Hes going away for a while back to Pakistan from Uk. The thing is we are not intouch at the moment and are saying nasty things to each other. I think its because we dont want to part so its easier to not see each other. Were soul mates and so in love so why is it like this September 2, 2017 I just fell in love maybe for the first time. Inoticed my body aches for him. Was hoping I found true love….. Was wondering ,so comparing notes. So sorry for the ones hurting from losses…. He really can make a difference…He is the healer!!! If so please let me know and thank you November 30, 2017 When my ex of 3 years broke up with me, I became physically and psychologically ill. I had serious panic attacks and I developed a sinus infection that got so bad my mother had to carry me to the car and take me to the hospital. They told me if I had waited longer I would have died. I think my immune system was lowered because of heart break. It took me almost six years to fall in love with someone else. I still think about my ex daily. However I now love my husband. January 15, 2018 It is just so relieving to find an honest thread of people here. And now you have no one to Go out with. Especially when you still wish the person you left the best of everything from Afar. And then once again no one would want to Understand that and thinks you just must line punishing yourself. So much sad misunderstanding. So much covering up to not feel. Yeah and you must just want to be sad. I wish all you honest people out there suffering the knowledge that you do deserve to heal the right way. And I wish you people to see that and help you. And yet, she sees so much now of how she could not have prevented this at all and how many things this young man presented with need to be dealt with or they will never be able to be a proper team as you have to keep the people you really love. I would do it all again in order to see my daughter as strong as she is now but what kills me is I can see she will never forget him. She never chased after. And she has to see him Very often. And the people she let unfriend her. I am in Silence from The ones that unfriended Me. So I believe all you on here. I hope you all have someone to stand by you. January 17, 2018 A broken heart as many know can be excruciating pain however not letting go and moving on perpetuates that pain. Please try not to spend too much time on staying stuck reliving the pain. One answer is my chronic loneliness has caused me to make poor choices and finally after so much debilitating pain, I rather endure the pain of solitude than being continously beaten up emotionally. February 1, 2018 ME AND THIS BOY NAMED JOSH HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR TWO YEARS WE OFTEN ARGUE DUE TO HIS PROBLEMS HE HAS DEPRESSION AND IS VERY SENSITIVE IM ALREADY GOING THROUGH SERVERE EMOTIONAL TRAUMA FROM A REALLY BAD RELASHIONSHIP 3 YEARS AGO BUT NOW ME AND JOSH HAVE BEEN ARGUING LATELY AND I STOPPED TAKING MY ANTI-DEPRESSENTS SO NOW WERE OKAY BUT IT STILL HURTS EVERYTIME WE ARGUE I TRY MY BEST BUT IM FALLING APART MYSELF March 12, 2018 Love is the most beautifullest and most powerful feeling that ever exists for everyone and anything Alive with a beating heart. I believe in Love with all my heart. Communication, the way you look into eachothers eyes say it all. Love you be you and LOVE. All or nothing, yes and no. From a real soul with a big heart. Start with loving around you.. Are you able to Express yourself like you wanted? Will your significant other take time to hear and acknowledge the way you feel? Hes is still in love with his ex. Now here I sit alone with his 5 year old child. Hoping love will make it my way soon.

He makes you weak in the knees. Another study of people who recently lost their spouse found the stress involved with mourning of dying from a heart attack by 20 to 35 percent. Nathan DeWall of the University of Kentucky, recently tested whether acetaminophen — the responsible ingredient in Tylenol — could relieve the pain of emotional distress as effectively as it relieves bodily aches. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. When we think about love, most of us imagine candlelit dinners, wine and roses. And right now I am hurting. You have a crush on someone. When that trust is broken, it does hurt, shock, and devastate us. I'm scared that my relationship will end very bad like my parents. May you truly experience yours - both the ecstasy and the agony.