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If you have, I'm going to guess that you are male and gay; or male, technically straight and somewhat curious; or the straight friend of a gay man. If not, allow me to enlighten you. Although buried deep in the Grindr ethos is the idea that you shouldn't do in cyberspace what you could be easily be doing in person. Grinding is an intoxicating experience. I was first introduced to it on the roof terrace of a bar in east London by my friends J and W. J launched the app on his iPhone and I got palpitations as the grid of portraits ordered in terms of geographical proximity — your nearest Grindr user is posted at the top left instantly unfurled itself across the screen. All these men, effectively coming on to — well, not me, but still… It is literally a sexy app and the overflow of that sexual potency, the decadence, sweeps you along on a wave of lust, regardless of who you are and what your gender or sexual orientation might be. I was reminded of the first time I entered words into the search criteria on Google, of the first time I downloaded music from iTunes — I knew I was engaging with a bit of technology that would alter things on a profound level. I scrolled on and on through the grid of gay offerings, furtively trying to match the pixelated images with the real-life men ranged around me in the bar. Grindr is reconfiguring the landscape of human relationships. Everyone else asked to remain anonymous. Grindr was launched on 25 March 2009; now more than 700,000 and counting men in 162 countries around the world are using it to phenomenal effect, if J, W, Kevin and the other gay men I've asked are any kind of a guide. Two thousand people download it every day, and a BlackBerry-friendly version of the app launched less than a month ago — a development which could triple Grindr's reach. But Grindr is more significant even than that suggests. It marks a major evolution in how all of us — gay, straight, alive — will meet and interact with each other. Depending on who you talk to, this is either brilliant liberating, socially enabling — the end, even, of loneliness and boredom ; or a potential disaster signalling the end of monogamy, facilitating sex addiction. Either way, it matters. Arguably we are living in a post-gay era. The divide between gay and straight worlds diminishes daily. Gay culture and straight culture become increasingly intertwined. For example, Grindr's biggest boost occurred in June 2009, after gay icon Stephen Fry told the boorishly straight Jeremy Clarkson all about it during an interview on super-hetero TV show Top Gear. So Grindr would matter even if it was not in the process of developing a straight version of its sexy self. It is likely that the Grindr experience will be open to a straight market by the end of 2010. He's a wiry, neatly handsome 33-year-old man with an American accent, a hectic manner and a sharp business edge. I meet him for coffee in a chic hotel in London. This is where he's basing himself while he checks out Grindr's flourishing UK market; he usually lives in Los Angeles. I was born — gay-born — with online. And that was a huge help to me in terms of meeting people — people who unfortunately were a ways away in Wyoming or wherever — but still, I was meeting people who were gay and who weren't freaks. I think every gay man starts asking it, from the moment he realises he's gay. You are somewhere and it's: 'Who else here, right now, is gay? Because coming out is a lonely process. And every gay man who asks himself that question also thinks: 'Wouldn't it be good if there was some way for me to tell? Some way for me to know? The first iPhone didn't have GPS, and it only had about eight apps. They were all Apple apps, too — you couldn't develop your own. It really wasn't that great a device. But in the same announcement of the second-generation phone, they said: 'This phone will have GPS and now you can create apps! I know an app I want to do! How it would work, what it would look like, what sort of commotion it would create? My notion was use GPS, see who else is near. He's straight, but he liked the idea; he had a full-time job, but he said: 'Yeah, I'll do this as a hobby. Both still work on Grindr. About the name: where did it come from? We liked the word. We liked the notion of a coffee grinder, mixing things together… And there's the term 'guy finder' in there, too. We wanted something that was masculine but was not about pride flags. And was in a way — not about being gay. I'm gay; I am a proud gay man. It's not that we have any issues, right? But Grindr's not about gay rights, or gay anything. It's about finding guys. Being among your peers. Being part of your community. It's not about: 'We're here, we're queer. For the first few months uptake was steady but modest. He builds a beautiful case for Grindr. He trumpets its international, unifying aspect, making it sound like the United Nations of gayness. I haven't been here for 10 years — the first thing I did when I landed at Heathrow was launch Grindr! Tokyo is our fourth largest city, one of our top cities! I've never been to Japan! I don't speak Japanese! It is a lot of work! There is no messing about, no toing and froing, no building up your hopes via weeks of emails only to discover on your first physical date that you just don't fancy whoever in the flesh. And — it's real. It is not a Second Life. It is not a virtual world. It enables real life, it doesn't replace it. None of this virtual nonsense. It's a precursor to sex. That's how I see Grindr. We want to be sexy. We think sex is part of life, the basis of life. But Grindr is sexiness rather than sex. Simkhai is keen to make the point that Grindr is not uniquely concerned with procuring sex. But they met their boyfriend. I am moved by Simkhai's passion, by the tales of the non-sexual impact of Grindr. I appreciate that it is still not easy to come out, and how important that sense of geographical proximity, of being part of a visible and accepting community, would be. The David Laws story breaks a fortnight after I interview Simkhai; a high-profile, sad piece of evidence that gay men still encounter problems in making their sexuality public. Yet the men I speak to tell me Grindr is all about sex. Many gay men see Grindr as a way to round off an evening. This guy pops up and chats me: 'You're near! Come and see us. Men get off the train on Sunday night after a weekend somewhere stifling, probably with their parents; they launch Grindr — guess who pops up first? But — you're always honest about who you are. You've got to be. You can't say you're younger or hotter than you are; you can't post someone else's photo. If you lie you're just going to get found out, and that pisses people off, obviously. Lying isn't done on Grindr. Why do you need to chat to people? Why do you need to be on Grindr? Call your mum up! I'm very tempted, of course I am! But ultimately I don't want to go there, and I don't want my boyfriend F to go there either. Not curious or bi or whatever. Attitude's Matthew Todd has reservations. It's good to be able to see that there are other gay people around, and to be able to interact. But at the same time I think it's a very adult world. The commercial gay world — which Grindr is part of — is a very adult, very sexual world. And I worry when I see these young kids coming out on to the gay scene, and everything is about sex. There's no real concept of relationships. I feel crap even writing it, but there it is. We drink, we use drugs and we use sex to overcome the shame we feel. And we feel worse because we know we shouldn't feel shame, we should feel pride — so we abuse drugs and sex more. Things like Grindr and Gaydar enable that sort of sex, sex which is compulsive and which dehumanises you; and means you in turn dehumanise the people you are having sex with. And what's better for self-esteem than someone having sex with you? There is, I think, an undeniable gender divide on the things that men and women will do for sex, and the things they expect and want from sex. Yes, women are capable of having inconsequential flings. We are capable of one-night stands. We are capable of having sex without becoming emotionally involved. FitFinder — which allowed undergraduate users to post descriptions of people they'd seen and fancied on their university-dedicated website — became extremely popular earlier this spring, before university authorities banned it, which would suggest that there is a straight market for a location-specific dating concept. But I'm not sure Grindr could fully accommodate the complexities of male-female interactions. The gender politics, the power games, the ebb and flow of interest, the tedious but totally authentic need most men feel to pursue a potential sexual conquest… I ask a handful of straight women — some single, some not — if they think they might be interested in a Grindr equivalent; they say they can just about envisage it working, although none of them would commit to the notion of using it themselves. If anyone can make and sell a straight Grindr, Simkhai can. I'm not a woman. I don't know how to think like a woman. Which might be because straight women are often friends with gay men, so know about Grindr… But I do think it would be relevant for women. Gay men are very territorial. They want to keep it all to themselves, but they say: 'If you have to make a straight version, call it something else. Who is in this room now? Who else is like me? And this thing where: 'I want a more fulfilling life. Gay men don't have the monopoly on loneliness and isolation. As I say goodbye to Joel Simkhai, I find myself thinking: however straight Grindr plays out for us — even if it opens up a Pandora's box on our sexuality, alters forever the way men and women relate, leaves us vulnerable to a whole new world of emotional and sexual complications — bring it on. It's going to make life more interesting.


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We are capable of grinder gay sex without becoming emotionally involved. Kulun Group bought a 61. We are capable of having sex without becoming emotionally involved. Retrieved May 22, 2016. Who is in this room now. Retrieved May 1, 2014. Gay north and straight culture become increasingly intertwined. While finding a compatible friend or partner on gay apps may seem easy given the wide variety of options, finding one who is emotionally and physically available is a whole other issue. I am moved by Simkhai's passion, by the tales of the non-sexual la of Grindr. Yet the men I speak to tell me Grindr is all about sex. They want to keep it all to themselves, but they say: 'If you have to make a straight version, call it something else.